"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Can we get useful info, and not just questions???

AlexLefty

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I'm tired of coming on here and seeing an abundance of afc based questions and journals.

What I want is for people to post some advice, or something. General tips..general things you've learned..theories...something. I try to post some things every once in a while that are helpful, like field reports or random tips, but I don't see anyone else doing it. Nothing against journals, but I don't read them..there's too many and not enough time. I support them for the personal growth, but otherwise, meh. If you guys have tips/advice/theories/whatever the **** you should start a new thread about it, because we can't check every single persons journal every single day? You know?

Anyways, thought I'd post this: these are a couple of common phrases I'll use in specific situations, you might find them helpful.

If someone says they're going to do something, for example: "I'm going to go say hi to julia" or "I'm going to the bathroom" a good response might be: "You go girl" or "Congratulations" or "Yay for you (from ndj)"

If someone compliments you on something, for example: "I like your ****" you say: "Thank you" and do not say something like "you think..i don't like it...blah blah" or tell an unnecessarily long/boring story about it. Say "Thank you" and compliment them or move on.

If someone makes a statement about what they like or has an opinion on something you could say "I agree". You don't want to monopolize the convo, say "I agree" and continue prodding about their opinion, or bring up a new subject for them to talk about, because people will talk forever.

"Respect (from the game)"

Yup....

k bye.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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