This summer I worked abroad with a cute girl. She said she had a controlling bf home, and was done with him, but they haven't officially broken up. We started flirting, getting touchy
(she would cling to me, talk cute, take my clothes, put stuff in my pockets, ask me for massages, let me carry her, put my hand on her thigh, etc.)
But according to her she was afraid of stories reaching back home, and didn't want to be perceived as a slut so she backed away whenever I wanted to take it up a level. I respected her concerns and I backed off. Anyway I move on to other girls.
Day before she leaves for home she tells me she has a perfect girl for me, and when I come back she will introduce us. (she means herself I think to myself)
Day after she leaves I'm approached by our coworker who showed me messages between her and the girl I was flirting with. There she says she likes me and is waiting for me to see that and do something about it.
So when I came back home I asked her out, we went out for coffee. She was all paranoid about something, we talked for about 3 hours but something felt off so I didn't make a significant move. I asked her who the girl she wanted to introduce me to was, and she is like, "oh I forgot, but it's not me if that's what you thought." (what about that message I was shown I think to myself???)
Tomorrow I'm messaged by a guy who was abroad with us, and he asks me if I went out with the cute girl. I say yes and he goes on about how they were together for half the summer, how he is still in love with her, he shows me pictures of them together, messages they sent each other. How they got into a fight mid summer and she blocked him everywhere. And begs me not to tell her he told me about their relationship they kept secret.
Now I know why she backed away from me before.
So now I'm like wtf , I respected her concerns and didn't push it, but it turns out she was ****ing around with an entirely different guy the whole time.
By this point I'm kinda over it, because I hate these games. I start ignoring her stories and posts and sure enough in about a month she reaches out and is like: "Hey have you moved to my city yet? I remember you were gonna move for work to my city.."
I let her know I'm not moving I found a better opportunity and leave her response on read. So now she is regularly reaching out every few days with some chit chat and I keep ignoring her.
Can anyone explain me the workings of the girls mind? Does she want something, does she miss the attention? Did she keep me around for backup? Should I just block her, or entertain it further?
(she would cling to me, talk cute, take my clothes, put stuff in my pockets, ask me for massages, let me carry her, put my hand on her thigh, etc.)
But according to her she was afraid of stories reaching back home, and didn't want to be perceived as a slut so she backed away whenever I wanted to take it up a level. I respected her concerns and I backed off. Anyway I move on to other girls.
Day before she leaves for home she tells me she has a perfect girl for me, and when I come back she will introduce us. (she means herself I think to myself)
Day after she leaves I'm approached by our coworker who showed me messages between her and the girl I was flirting with. There she says she likes me and is waiting for me to see that and do something about it.
So when I came back home I asked her out, we went out for coffee. She was all paranoid about something, we talked for about 3 hours but something felt off so I didn't make a significant move. I asked her who the girl she wanted to introduce me to was, and she is like, "oh I forgot, but it's not me if that's what you thought." (what about that message I was shown I think to myself???)
Tomorrow I'm messaged by a guy who was abroad with us, and he asks me if I went out with the cute girl. I say yes and he goes on about how they were together for half the summer, how he is still in love with her, he shows me pictures of them together, messages they sent each other. How they got into a fight mid summer and she blocked him everywhere. And begs me not to tell her he told me about their relationship they kept secret.
Now I know why she backed away from me before.
So now I'm like wtf , I respected her concerns and didn't push it, but it turns out she was ****ing around with an entirely different guy the whole time.
By this point I'm kinda over it, because I hate these games. I start ignoring her stories and posts and sure enough in about a month she reaches out and is like: "Hey have you moved to my city yet? I remember you were gonna move for work to my city.."
I let her know I'm not moving I found a better opportunity and leave her response on read. So now she is regularly reaching out every few days with some chit chat and I keep ignoring her.
Can anyone explain me the workings of the girls mind? Does she want something, does she miss the attention? Did she keep me around for backup? Should I just block her, or entertain it further?
