"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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can someone tell me where i went wrong here...(text convo)

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Actually thought i had already commented in this thread but clearly forgot to save it

Anyway right yea the first text is good its light hearted and allows her to remember who you are from what you where talking about

you should of flipped the conversation to a date almost as soon as she replied to that first text

Instead you decided to start trying to validate yourself to her by spinning off a load of random carp trying to be funny but in all honesty doesn’t make sense because you can’t express emotion through texts (sorry to be harsh)

I used to spend hours constructing complex texts which where paragraphs long trying to build a rapport with a woman

I was pis*ing in the wind

Short to the point and witty texts will get you the results you want
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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But isn't it true that if u always point at the date right away u might scare off the ones that have IL but not as high as others? Not every girl wants to hook up right away. Some need a little persuading...

What if I got a number from a girl which isn't convinced about my potential (could even be because of her thinking i'm a player or not the type she usually is attracted to) but she is curious about my move next? Making her laugh by using good text can be a strong move right?
 

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Hmmm... there was a little bit too much will nilly humor going on in there. It's good to throw a couple of funny jabs in there, but I just use text to get important messages across "Here's the address" "stuck in traffic", etc.. I save all the funny stuff and conversation pieces for actual one on one conversation.
 

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Chaan said:
But isn't it true that if u always point at the date right away u might scare off the ones that have IL but not as high as others? Not every girl wants to hook up right away. Some need a little persuading... ?
Theres a really fine line between being funny and trying too hard

Unless you know what you’re doing i would avoid “trying” to be funny in texts

Don’t get me wrong If the opportunity presents itself in the text convo by all means take it



Chaan said:
What if I got a number from a girl which isn't convinced about my potential (could even be because of her thinking i'm a player or not the type she usually is attracted to) but she is curious about my move next? Making her laugh by using good text can be a strong move right?

Lol if she isn’t convinced about your potential why would she be curious on your next move ?

Trust me bro most girls these days have different guys hitting them up 20 times a day if you haven’t done enough to “convince” her about your potential in the initial interaction you aren’t going to be able to do it via text
 

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Dude you're trying way too hard, I cringed reading this. Your texts should be simple, short, and direct. You don't want to give off the vibe that you spent 20 minutes thinking of a clever joke to say or a witty response. Just get to the fuc*ing point and be friendly but serious.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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