"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Can someone explain eye contact

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I get making eye contact while talking to someone, that is easy, I just look into their eyes when they are saying something.

How do I make eye contact with people I am walking past on the street and greet them with a smile? (Boot camp week 1). When someone is ten to twenty feet away, I usually catch their eyes for a second then either of us diverts our gaze. Then I try to make eye contact again while are about three feet away because it seems more reasonable to say hi and greet them when it is closer, as opposed to being ten or fifteen feet away.

I literally do not have any experience with making eye contact. My grandma told me as a kid that it was not socially acceptable to stare at people out in public, so I made an effort to not look at people for more than a second, and I still find myself doing that. Is it actually socially acceptable to look at someone as long as you smile when they look back???

Some tips would be greatly appreciated.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Reading eye contact as an indication of interest is just as important as making it yourself. Girls who won't look at you are not interested - the ones who are interested will make eye contact, and often stare at you when you are not looking, which is a slightly different thing, but still shows how the eyes indicate interest.
 

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Reading eye contact as an indication of interest is just as important as making it yourself. Girls who won't look at you are not interested - the ones who are interested will make eye contact, and often stare at you when you are not looking, which is a slightly different thing, but still shows how the eyes indicate interest.
How about when walking past strangers in general. I’m trying get those 50 eye contact smile and hi.
 

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If you are in the US, I'd say proper etiquette depends in part on where you live. People in major cities usually don't say high to strangers, but it is normal in a small town.
 

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If you are in the US, I'd say proper etiquette depends in part on where you live. People in major cities usually don't say high to strangers, but it is normal in a small town.
Gotcha. I live in San Francisco that makes sense
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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