"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Can ppl who have been friends for years get into a relationship?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Giles
Don Juan
JCballin88
Senior Don Juan
In my casual observation of them, it seemed like none of them were ever going to date anyone else in the group, because they were just such good friends. Plus the dynamics were a little off, seeing as there are 4 guys and 2 girls.
Well sure enough one of the guys and one of the girls just started a relationship a few weeks ago. I'm not really sure how it happened, because it seemed like all 4 of the guys were permanently in the "friend zone" with the girls, although I always suspected that they were desperate to hook up with either of them.
Phenomenal One
Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I don't recomend it for long term, but for fun it can be amazing. I guess its the whole "how much do you wanna invest?" question. Some people just click, but just because someone is a best friend doesnt mean they are viable as a partner, its a different ball game, you gotta make the transition. If you stay in the friendzone mindset when you're in a relationship, its NOT going to work. Obviously.
Giles said:It's possible to date you're best friend, but you have to find a way to make the transition. Simply suggesting it won't work. Seize an opportunity when she's vulnerable and needs somebody right away. It's hard to do. I have a lot of girl friends I would like to bang, but only got one of them, and that was way before I knew what game was it was really just luck for me.
http://xkcd.com/513/
There are other types of friendship different from this one u know, not all my guy friends care for their female friends like this. They just don't give a **** about her life, they only care about having fun w/ them and not have any sexual attraction to them. So my question is with the type of friendship I have just mentioned above, is it possible for those people who are already friends to get into a relationship.Warrior74 said: