"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Luveno
RIDER, welcome to sosuave.

This girl is MANIPULATIVE! You didn't take her crap so she started to spout her sentimental melodrama to make you feel GUILTY about being HONEST and CUTTING YOUR LOSSES. Have sentiment for the poor, the underprivileged, your family, and your friends. NOT MANIPULATIVE girls that OFFER YOU NOTHING but PAIN!

Ask yourself this: If you were so special to her, why aren't you dating?

Looks like she's won, and you've lost.
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I'm glad you wrote that

You're right, I ****ed up! thats cool though I'm over it now :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Alrite... People in general never really bother to update their opinion/image/stereotype of another person, simply becasue it's too cumbersome. During initial contact, they place you into a stereotype in their mind and that's where you stay. That's why rep is hard to change.

In women, this is especially present when it comes to men. You know how they say that in the first 2 minutes, a woman knows whether she'll fvck you or not? Well, when they meet a man, they quickly judge him based on first impression (60-70 % dominant male attitude, 30-40 % looks). Then they place him into either the buddy pile or the potential mate pile. If you get shot into Buddyville, you'll stay there till the end of time (unless you're willing to exert the truly herculean effort that it takes to get out). If you go into the other one, you have to fight to stay there.

So the answer is NO. I really wish it was otherwise, though. :)
 
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