"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Can or can't touch this?

Carrington

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Okay, I just need a few opinions on this so I'll make quick.

There is this girl (isn't there always), and every time I make her laugh or play it right by her, she always kino's me via grabbing my arm and during this short period of grace I am free to touch her back completely freely with her being very receptive of it.
However (and this can be less than a minute later) sometimes during normal conversation, or particularly any time I play ****y funny and I go in for a little kino, she looks at me offended and says "don't touch me".

I figure she's just not sure what she wants (her parents would never let her date) or is doing a really bad rendition of playing hard to get.
Anyhow, It ain't bothering me too much, as this girl is mainly a bit of fun for me, but I would like to know your opinions on why she goes from one extreme to the other so quickly.

Thanks for your thoughts guys,
- Carrington
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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InsidiousNstinct

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That's almost ALL women...shes trying to screw with ya man.

Two words.... ROLE REVERSAL ;)

See how that works.....
 

Mr. Debonaire

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Originally posted by InsidiousNstinct
That's almost ALL women...shes trying to screw with ya man.

Two words.... ROLE REVERSAL ;)

See how that works.....
i like, i like

next time she touches you, do EXACTLY WHAT SHE DID

then see whos the boss :cool:
 

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Damn, I should have thought of that!

That's the bomb, I'll definitely give that to go next time I see her.

Thanks guys,
- Carrington
 

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Originally posted by Carrington
...and during this short period of grace I am free to touch her back completely freely with her being very receptive of it.
However (and this can be less than a minute later) sometimes during normal conversation, or particularly any time I play ****y funny and I go in for a little kino, she looks at me offended and says "don't touch me".
"Short period of grace"? I figure you're not fully into the DJ teachings yet, so I'll be nice. :D
Like all women, she's definitely aware of what she wants on a subconscious level. Now, it's up to you to show her that you're "the sh!t". Simply put, use all that cool stuff from the DJBible (C/F, kino, etc.) to gain advantage.
Role reversal is great. Hot/cold is good too. (One day you seem interested in her, other day you ignore her completely).
Cheers.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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