"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Can one survive in this day and age without a cell phone?

MascaraSnake

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I was watching Goodfellas the other day, and I was intrigued by the behavior of one of the mob bosses -- he refused to own a phone, and there were men in his circle that ran messages back and forth to him as their only job. If that slowed things down, so be it -- he only wanted to take messages on his own terms, and if that slowed things down, so be it.

This is an extreme example, but many people (mainly from a few generations ago) have succeeded without jumping onto the cell phone bandwagon, Warren Buffett being a notable example. I've started to grow disgusted with technology getting to the point where everyone's connected to it -- to me, the strongest people are the ones who aren't tethered to their gadgets, and I'm intrigued by the idea of becoming the only guy in my social circle who is damn near impossible to reach.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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badboyjmm

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MascaraSnake said:
Can one survive in this day and age without a cell phone?
Yeah, there's home phone, IM, Facebook, Email etc.

the strongest people are the ones who aren't tethered to their gadgets, and I'm intrigued by the idea of becoming the only guy in my social circle who is damn near impossible to reach.
Well that's not always true... But I understand what do you mean. With that said, I have a smartphone but I'm not always using it. Sometimes it's off for days.

You will not be impossible to reach if the person who's trying to contact you knows you well. The problem is that we are so caught up with technology in general that we don't take time to know each other. I mean, if I didn't hear from a friend in a long time, I will try to call, email, facebook and at last resort, knock on their door.
 

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Donald Trump says if you are anwsering your own cell phone, you don't make enough money. lol.

But seriously, until I get to trumps status, my cell phone is my business. I operate most of my daily activities out of my phone. Emailing clients, updating my website, calling clients. I guess it depends on what you do for a living. If your a fireman or a carpenter or a walmart greeter or even just an office drone, there is no reason for you to have a cell phone other than convience. if you are an entrepreneur, well good luck with that.
 

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I doubt it.

Any man with any semi-important job has to have a cell phone. If you don't need a mobile phone for your job, then sorry, but your job isn't important.

And for personal use, not having facebook (I don't btw) is bad enough. Not having a cell phone would be completely out of the question as far as I'm concerned.

Tell a girl you don't have one and she will go running in the opposite direction faster than you can say "$29.95 per month plan" :eek:
 

Da Realist

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This year I've had it were my phone was off or broken and I've made it by going back to what I had to do before I had one: finding a land line, remembering numbers off the top of my head, and having patience. It's convenient to have one, but I could honestly get by with a house phone. The only reason to have a cellphone is again for convenience or because you are in a profession where people have to get in touch with you fast. Other than that, it's mostly impulsive people just loudly yapping about unimportant crap.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The way I grew up, we had a house phone with no answering machine or caller ID. And it's still that way. Once I'm out of school I'll probably do the same. For now it's not worth it with roommates who already have cells.
 

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runner83 said:
Any man with any semi-important job has to have a cell phone.
Not true for any sort of research position (prof, private industry)
 

Strelok

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Damn I miss so much the mid 90s,no cellphones,internet was for pro only and when a girl gave you her home number you were sure there was a high interest from her.
It was great to be a teenager in the 90s.
 

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I have a hacked phone I use to watch the time and run code. It has no simcard and I can't use it to send or receive calls and on top of that. Hey, I'm alive.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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