There is this girl in one of my classes in college who I am really into and it seemed like she was really into me too. We always talked and laughed in class and we would walk to the next class together. Every time she saw me she would smile and blush and when we talked she would smile really wide and stare at me. I was sure that she was crazy for me. But then her friend tells me that she doesn't like me and that she likes another guy. I didn't really believe her at first but then she showed me a text conversation with the girl and sure enough she said that she liked a different guy. So this really pissed me off and made me feel like an idiot because I really thought she liked me. I started no contact today. I noticed she kept staring at me and trying to get my attention a lot. I really do like this girl so is there a way that I can use no contact to make her want me? Have any of you guys ever had a situation like this and used no contact? Or should I just move on and work on my other plates? Thanks in advance.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Can no contact help me in this situation?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Just ask her out and you will get your answer.
Just because she likes someone else doesn't mean that other guy gives a sh!t about her. Sometimes women shoot too high in their aim for the prince on a Phucken white horse.
Just because she likes someone else doesn't mean that other guy gives a sh!t about her. Sometimes women shoot too high in their aim for the prince on a Phucken white horse.
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Whether you call it 'no contact' or being aloof, do it.