"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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can ignoring her enough get her to invite you round?

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The chick I took out twice a few weeks ago the one who wouldn't even let me hold her hand or kiss her after second date so I haven't contacted her since. I sensed she was just a rinser using guys to take her out for free and not pay for anything or offering too especially when she is a successful woman herself so really that is unacceptable.

It's been 3 weeks since I saw her and she messages me on Facebook just 'hi! How are you?' I haven't replied I feel like we left it where she wouldn't let me kiss her in the car nor drop her outside her place (she made me drop her near her place to walk the rest of way herself)

I assume she's just using me for attention to take her out so there's no point meeting her again as she'll just continue what she's doing before. Is there literally no point talking to her unless she is going to invite me round which doesn't look like it'll happen either so not giving her the satisfaction of giving her my attention is the only option. How many of you guys continue the conversation generally with low IL HBs or just ignore and move on?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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pete101 said:
The chick I took out twice a few weeks ago the one who wouldn't even let me hold her hand or kiss her after second date so I haven't contacted her since. I sensed she was just a rinser using guys to take her out for free and not pay for anything or offering too especially when she is a successful woman herself so really that is unacceptable.

It's been 3 weeks since I saw her and she messages me on Facebook just 'hi! How are you?' I haven't replied I feel like we left it where she wouldn't let me kiss her in the car nor drop her outside her place (she made me drop her near her place to walk the rest of way herself)

I assume she's just using me for attention to take her out so there's no point meeting her again as she'll just continue what she's doing before. Is there literally no point talking to her unless she is going to invite me round which doesn't look like it'll happen either so not giving her the satisfaction of giving her my attention is the only option. How many of you guys continue the conversation generally with low IL HBs or just ignore and move on?
Ignore her.

Leave the only option for her to invite you to her place, for her to come to yours.

Another option is for her to invite you to a date and SHE PAYS, because you've already paid.

Anything outside of this ignore.
 

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If you respond keep it indifferent. Just reply "doing great, thanks". Don't ask how she is and don't ask her out again.
 

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pete101 said:
The chick I took out twice a few weeks ago the one who wouldn't even let me hold her hand or kiss her after second date so I haven't contacted her since. I sensed she was just a rinser using guys to take her out for free and not pay for anything or offering too especially when she is a successful woman herself so really that is unacceptable.
Really this is all you need to know not having nothing more to do with her. Her behavior checks out with your gut instinct. Move on and do not waste your time with a crappy woman no more.
 

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Ask her out again, but make it to a place where you dont have to pay for anything, like chilling in a park or playing cards at your house. See how she responds to that. If she is shaky on that , then you know she just wants your money, if she is cool then just meet up. Basically, keep your dates 'free' until you get sexual escalation.

I think she either wants to get to know you better or is just ****ing around. Either way, don't go on 'payed' dates.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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GS750 said:
If you respond keep it indifferent. Just reply "doing great, thanks". Don't ask how she is and don't ask her out again.
If I send what you suggested and she follows up asking questions what I been up to etc should I then just ignore?

I suspect she just wanted to be taken out friday night that's why she sent me the message to see if she had my attention and would fall for the bait
 

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two dates and three weeks later she contacts you? i'd ignore and move on.
 

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Delete and ignore. She's trying to get closure. Don't give her the satisfaction. :nono:
 

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Ignore that poisonous woman. She wants your attention and your time, not your sexuality. She's likely in another castle anyway.

Case closed. Move on.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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