"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Can I remove my sex drive?

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Alpine
Have you ever felt like this before, then the next day there was something that made everything alot better?

What was it and why?
Sometimes it was my favorite TV show. It made feel better because it was funny.
 

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Can I remove my sex drive?

Originally posted by Eighth Passenger
I really don't wanna spend another day on this stupid a$$ earth anyway. I curse the day I was born. My existence is pointless. God made a mistake in creating me. I have nothing to offer anyone, anything, not even myself.

That is all.
Uh-oh... I hope I don't hear a gunshot.

BGMan :eek:
 

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Brain biochemistry

Often people have brain biochemistry imbalances that cause depression that can't be overcome by therapy. In my case, I was getting suicidally depressed on account of eating allergic foods. I removed those foods from my diet and my moods improved immeasurably, my thoughts became clearer and more reasonable, and I became a much more effective, self-confident man overall.

There are lots of possible sources for your problem. I suggest seeking out a doctor who's up on "complementary" medicine, so you can find out if there's a natural way to straighten things out. It could be something very simple (though not necessarily easy).

In any case, look to biochemistry first.

And weight training does generally help ones biochemistry, but probably not enough to cure serious depression.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Eighth,

Now as you think about that funny TV programme, you may realise that you can infact influence your mood somewhat for the better.

I'd suggest getting a few vids of programmes like that and watch them again. Belly laughs release chemicals in the brain that give you a sense of well being.

The suggestions for exercise are great, but perhaps at the moment, if you have those heavy, sinking lethargic feelings, it's very difficult to get off your ass. Walking in a peaceful park would be an excellent start until you gain more energy.

By this time you should feel a bit better and feel up to taking some action.

This will make you feel 10 times better. Look at ways you can improve your lot, write down a plan, then just take the first step. It doesn't have to be massive, just start the ball rolling.

When you realise that HOPE is what you have lost and you have created new HOPE, then you will be feeling a lot better.

Don't jump to conclusions or label yourself a depressive. Pretty much everybody at some time in their life feels the way you do and even says some of the things you've been saying.

If it carries on for more than a week or two, then see a doc. Even then you don't necesarily want to be labelling yourself.
 
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