"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Can I remedy this situation???

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Last night after my friend and I left a bar, we saw a girl getting into her car next to ours. My friend struck a conversation up first when I unlocked the car, and I soon went over to talk with them. She seemed to gravitate towards me, and near the end of the conversation I learned she didn't have a boyfriend and she lives pretty close to me. I got her number, hopefully it was a real one, and then we split our ways. I probably pulled a bad move in texting her last night so she would know my number before I called. I did not call her yet, and I did not get a text back from her. What should I do? How would you remedy the situation or did I mess it up beyond belief?

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"If you find yourself in a hole...stop digging".
 

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Yeah, you screwed up by texting her right away.

The only thing you can do now is wait 2-3 days and call her. If she doesn't pick up, leave a message stating that you will call her again at a specific time and day. If she is interested, she will be sure to be around for your call.

When you call again, if she doesn't pick up, forget her.
 

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Would you give a girl that you didn't find attractive your number? No you most likely wouldn't! However, I've known girls to give out there number to ugly b*stards that they openly say they hate!

No you didn't make a bad move by txt'ing mate! What you did is saved yourself some hassale cos' you've discovered that YOU do not warrent an immediate reply! If she liked you it wouldn't matter when you txt'd, but cos she probably sees you as a regular guy she'll take her time txting you back if at all...Her phonebook is probably full of guys names that she's never even spoken too! Fvcking "phone number harvesters"...its like these chumps that have over 300 contacts on MSN, most they don't know, some don't even log in, and the remaining 5 are real friends - but hey we have to keep up the image of being popular!

Delete the number, if she txts you just ignore it...unless it's a good excuse for making you wait! Replying in good time to a txt, email, letter is just common courtesy!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So if I still want to talk to her I should wait until tomorrow and then call her up by just saying...hey it's Mayfly, how's it going. If she cared to remember me, I won't have to qualify where I met her right?
 

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To be honest Mayfly, what have you got to lose???
 

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Not much I guess...I might as well go for it tomorrow night. Tonight be a little too soon. I should have waited till today to call and not text to make sure she had my number. But I have nothing to lose I figure.
 

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My thread is the exact same problem. Write later how it went cause I'm intrested in the outcome, very much!:nervous:
 

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Like I said, not replying is just a lack of courtesy and I take offence at that stuff - unless there is a good reason! Doesn't take much to reply!

But hey! that's just me!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Get smart,

Text her again, but only once more. Raise your game, something funny using Push Pull. Like.....

"It was nice to meet a pretty face the other night, but can it hold an interesting conversation? If the answer is no then don't reply".

This works great for most cases. Basically she’s telling you she’s dumb by not replying.... so in essence she has to.

Your also telling her that your smart and you only want people aroud you who are smart.

Your also telling her her looks are not important.

Get smart....


The House of nEdNaW
 

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Would you give a girl that you didn't find attractive your number? No you most likely wouldn't! However, I've known girls to give out there number to ugly b*stards that they openly say they hate!

No you didn't make a bad move by txt'ing mate! What you did is saved yourself some hassale cos' you've discovered that YOU do not warrent an immediate reply! If she liked you it wouldn't matter when you txt'd, but cos she probably sees you as a regular guy she'll take her time txting you back if at all...Her phonebook is probably full of guys names that she's never even spoken too! Fvcking "phone number harvesters"...its like these chumps that have over 300 contacts on MSN, most they don't know, some don't even log in, and the remaining 5 are real friends - but hey we have to keep up the image of being popular!

Delete the number, if she txts you just ignore it...unless it's a good excuse for making you wait! Replying in good time to a txt, email, letter is just common courtesy!
True in my experience, if she has enough interest in you dosen't matter when you call or text or what, she'll call you or text you back immediately...


-Cod3r
 

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nednaw said:
Get smart,

Text her again, but only once more. Raise your game, something funny using Push Pull. Like.....

"It was nice to meet a pretty face the other night, but can it hold an interesting conversation? If the answer is no then don't reply".

This works great for most cases. Basically she’s telling you she’s dumb by not replying.... so in essence she has to.

Your also telling her that your smart and you only want people aroud you who are smart.

Your also telling her her looks are not important.

Get smart....


The House of nEdNaW
Fantastic post. Definitely gonna try this out.
 

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She never answered any of the texts I left, even the funny one. I think I am going to give up on her or stalk her. Either works.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Anyways I used the same message and nothing.


I guess it all comes down to IL. If the girl likes you, you can send her a text, after 1 month of waiting, saying that you got diarrhoea, and she will still like you. On the other hand, you can be the most funny guy on the phone and all, and she won't give a damn cause her IL is low.
 

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L777 said:
"If you find yourself in a hole...stop digging".
hah wow never heard that one but so true! Give the girl a couple of days and call her up around 10 or 11 pm
 

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We've got some definite stalkers here... first message, no response... move on

I gamed a 2set of coursins in a lounge about 8 or 9 months back, ended up dancin with one, hookin up with the other, got head in the bathroom and she promised I could fvck her in the arse when i called. Got the number, called and got the voicemail, no message, thas it... over, no thinking or nada



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