jeannie
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Now wum? this gets better! I need a slang dictionary
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Can I have a mans opinion on this PLEASE (I am a girl)
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
jeannie
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This is my first time in a forum, its been enlightening! Thanks everyone! X
Eternal_water
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jeannie
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Thanks SgtSplacker! I need a forum education! I am a forum virgin! First time today. I think the majority of replies have been very helpful. Makes a nice change to interact with guys who are open about feelings and can give good advice! Much appreciated! X
jeannie
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Eternal Water, thanks for the links, I will have to have a look and get accustomed to these new terms. I will be back when I can speak the lingo! Cheers x
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
don't worry, I have been here for years and never heard of wuming. you learn something new every day!
a general word of precaution, be careful about advice you take here. It takes a little diligence on your end to decipher good/ bad courses of action. So far, it seems that people are pretty spot on though.
I know that sometimes women want men to make a move and put themselves out there for that to happen, but sometimes the signals are too subtle. I won't speak for the entire male populous, but I look for a few tell tale signs like body language and proximity. If they laugh at everything even if its stupid thats always good. Even with some confidence, I am unsure sometimes if a move is appropriate. The quickest way to end something is to make an unwarranted move, so most of us avoid it without clear signals. In short, make sure your intentions are known.
a general word of precaution, be careful about advice you take here. It takes a little diligence on your end to decipher good/ bad courses of action. So far, it seems that people are pretty spot on though.
I know that sometimes women want men to make a move and put themselves out there for that to happen, but sometimes the signals are too subtle. I won't speak for the entire male populous, but I look for a few tell tale signs like body language and proximity. If they laugh at everything even if its stupid thats always good. Even with some confidence, I am unsure sometimes if a move is appropriate. The quickest way to end something is to make an unwarranted move, so most of us avoid it without clear signals. In short, make sure your intentions are known.
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Absolutely, particularly in a work environment you have to constantly remind yourself that every friendly girl may not want to be intimate with you. Maybe they just... you know... want to be just friends? What a strange concept! It's impossible to focus on work if you are constantly trying to interpret female reactions as sexual or not. So at least I kinda shut that train of thought off when i'm at work. But yeah, it's different at a pickup place like a bar or a club because that's what people generally go there to do. So when you are at non designated pickup place like work you have to send him very clear signals that you want to step out of normal friendly behavior and start something else.synergy1 said:
One thing I can say for sure is that for a man to talk for hours on the phone like that it takes quite the attraction to the other person. That's why you got some of the earlier responses to this thread like "Sounds like he's afc." and "I'm not sure which one of you to b*tch slap." what they're basically trying to tell you is that there is a very strong connection between you two, something generally not accepted on a forum where you are taught to date multiple women at the same time and to generally guard your emotions like the hope diamond.
Look him in the eye. Grab his junk. And tell him to take you right there and then!
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This, this and this!SgtSplacker said:
synergy1 said:
Totally agree with synergy1 on this. The worst is when you guys are so comfortable and you have no clue how to distinguish comfort from interest. That maybe why your man is not making a move because if he does, as Synergy1 said, if your not ready yet or interested he couldn't end it all (his chances with the girl/you) right there by trying to escalate to the bedroom or etc.
What are clear signs though and the best are probably having a drink in your apartment. You can make it easier for him by having a few drinks then pulling out some book/photo album and make him hop in real close to look. Now that he's next to you and you're both a bit loose just skootch on over and nudge him till you guys are literally bumping next to each other. If that doesn't give him a clear signs he must be retarded.
Sometimes another hard thing for me, probably not all men is to make a smooth transition. I don't force a kiss, or a bedding session, not when im dating someone. Everything is a gradual transition (barring One Night Stands aka ONS). If you let him know your available to escalate make it easier for him to capitalize on an opportunity. eye locking is always great. Look at a photo album and just comment on this person's eyes looks like his, lock eyes and BAM.
I live in a metro area where most people live with room mates and hang out a room. Sitting on your bed and inviting him to sit next to you is also a clear way to see if he's interested. He should obviously know what you're hinting at then.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.