Basically got friendzoned badly eventhough she knew I had feelings for her. I knew she was into another guy when I told her my feelings and it didnt go well. We stayed like best friends and for a solid couple of weeks there was a lot of flirting and her asking me to sleepover multiple times... I didn't because of the possibility of parents being involved... Her dads a cop. Anyways a couple of days ago she asked me how to talk to the guy she has feelings for. I said don't ask me I still like you... Convo went on with her asking me for my opinion on what to do multiple times I said I can't give it to you and then said if i gonna get over you we have to stop talking. She said okay and it didnt seem like she cared... Btw all these convos are txting. So I am where I am we haven't talked or txted in a couple of days and I feel heartbroken and like ****. Idk how everything could be going well and then this. Is there anyway I could talk to her again an maybe take another shot at winning her over?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Can I fix it?
- Thread starter YourMan
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
BPH
Master Don Juan
Wow, you made a LOT of mistakes...but you sound new so let's point them out:
1. Being friendzone-ed: You did not come off as a sexual guy, you came off as a "girlfriend", she was too comfortable around you and you did not show your interest early enough
2. Telling her your feelings: Read The Book of Pook, you'll know why this is bad. Basically you're being a nice guy by vomitting your sappy feelings onto her, the reason why this is bad should be self-exaplanatory
3. Not sleeping over: If it was just you and her you should have gone for it...but only if this was before the friendzone thing. Otherwise she just wanted to have you over to braid hair and talk about boys
4. Talking to her after she asked you for help with another guy: Self-explanatory
5. Having the convo over text: In person or on the the phone with girls you're interested in. That should be a general rule and it has few exceptions
6. Wanting to win HER over: Your mindset is terrible. You see her as the prize, not yourself. Once again, read Pook's Book
I hope I helped, if just a wee bit. Read Pook's Book. That is all, and NO do NOT talk to this chick at ALL. There's a phrase, "GFTOW" which means Go F*** Ten Other Women...do that
1. Being friendzone-ed: You did not come off as a sexual guy, you came off as a "girlfriend", she was too comfortable around you and you did not show your interest early enough
2. Telling her your feelings: Read The Book of Pook, you'll know why this is bad. Basically you're being a nice guy by vomitting your sappy feelings onto her, the reason why this is bad should be self-exaplanatory
3. Not sleeping over: If it was just you and her you should have gone for it...but only if this was before the friendzone thing. Otherwise she just wanted to have you over to braid hair and talk about boys
4. Talking to her after she asked you for help with another guy: Self-explanatory
5. Having the convo over text: In person or on the the phone with girls you're interested in. That should be a general rule and it has few exceptions
6. Wanting to win HER over: Your mindset is terrible. You see her as the prize, not yourself. Once again, read Pook's Book
I hope I helped, if just a wee bit. Read Pook's Book. That is all, and NO do NOT talk to this chick at ALL. There's a phrase, "GFTOW" which means Go F*** Ten Other Women...do that
YoYoRocks
Don Juan
Best friends in guy terms is, I have a huge crush on her, I really like her, but she doesn't like me. So I'm just gonna stick around and wait for her, and one day after she's been through a slew of bad boyfriends, she'll realize what a great guy I am.YourMan said:
Get real.
Your blaming her in the first sentence, "she friend zoned me even though she knew I really liked her". No girl HAS to like you.
A good opportunity of laying some game down would have been when you slept over her house! You were afraid to go over there for whatever reason, and used her parents as a scape goat.
Your getting hooked on this chick because you have low self value. She showed you some interest, and now you have this mentality that this is the only girl in the world for you. There are other girls at your school. Don't be a chump with the next girl and she'll fvck with you.