Basically got friendzoned badly eventhough she knew I had feelings for her. I knew she was into another guy when I told her my feelings and it didnt go well. We stayed like best friends and for a solid couple of weeks there was a lot of flirting and her asking me to sleepover multiple times... I didn't because of the possibility of parents being involved... Her dads a cop. Anyways a couple of days ago she asked me how to talk to the guy she has feelings for. I said don't ask me I still like you... Convo went on with her asking me for my opinion on what to do multiple times I said I can't give it to you and then said if i gonna get over you we have to stop talking. She said okay and it didnt seem like she cared... Btw all these convos are txting. So I am where I am we haven't talked or txted in a couple of days and I feel heartbroken and like ****. Idk how everything could be going well and then this. Is there anyway I could talk to her again an maybe take another shot at winning her over?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Can I fix it?
- Thread starter YourMan
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
BPH
Master Don Juan
Wow, you made a LOT of mistakes...but you sound new so let's point them out:
1. Being friendzone-ed: You did not come off as a sexual guy, you came off as a "girlfriend", she was too comfortable around you and you did not show your interest early enough
2. Telling her your feelings: Read The Book of Pook, you'll know why this is bad. Basically you're being a nice guy by vomitting your sappy feelings onto her, the reason why this is bad should be self-exaplanatory
3. Not sleeping over: If it was just you and her you should have gone for it...but only if this was before the friendzone thing. Otherwise she just wanted to have you over to braid hair and talk about boys
4. Talking to her after she asked you for help with another guy: Self-explanatory
5. Having the convo over text: In person or on the the phone with girls you're interested in. That should be a general rule and it has few exceptions
6. Wanting to win HER over: Your mindset is terrible. You see her as the prize, not yourself. Once again, read Pook's Book
I hope I helped, if just a wee bit. Read Pook's Book. That is all, and NO do NOT talk to this chick at ALL. There's a phrase, "GFTOW" which means Go F*** Ten Other Women...do that
1. Being friendzone-ed: You did not come off as a sexual guy, you came off as a "girlfriend", she was too comfortable around you and you did not show your interest early enough
2. Telling her your feelings: Read The Book of Pook, you'll know why this is bad. Basically you're being a nice guy by vomitting your sappy feelings onto her, the reason why this is bad should be self-exaplanatory
3. Not sleeping over: If it was just you and her you should have gone for it...but only if this was before the friendzone thing. Otherwise she just wanted to have you over to braid hair and talk about boys
4. Talking to her after she asked you for help with another guy: Self-explanatory
5. Having the convo over text: In person or on the the phone with girls you're interested in. That should be a general rule and it has few exceptions
6. Wanting to win HER over: Your mindset is terrible. You see her as the prize, not yourself. Once again, read Pook's Book
I hope I helped, if just a wee bit. Read Pook's Book. That is all, and NO do NOT talk to this chick at ALL. There's a phrase, "GFTOW" which means Go F*** Ten Other Women...do that
YoYoRocks
Don Juan
Best friends in guy terms is, I have a huge crush on her, I really like her, but she doesn't like me. So I'm just gonna stick around and wait for her, and one day after she's been through a slew of bad boyfriends, she'll realize what a great guy I am.YourMan said:
Get real.
Your blaming her in the first sentence, "she friend zoned me even though she knew I really liked her". No girl HAS to like you.
A good opportunity of laying some game down would have been when you slept over her house! You were afraid to go over there for whatever reason, and used her parents as a scape goat.
Your getting hooked on this chick because you have low self value. She showed you some interest, and now you have this mentality that this is the only girl in the world for you. There are other girls at your school. Don't be a chump with the next girl and she'll fvck with you.