"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can I assume?

The LadyKiller

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A couple of weeks ago, I met a HB 9.5. I wanted to try and experiment - if I assume she will say yes to anything I ask (and not pose it as a question), will she comply more? It ties into the "assume she already likes you" strategy. So far, it has worked, though on a very small scale. I've gotten her number and casually gone out with her once by doing this. That brings me to this post.

A few days ago, HB 9.5 randomly began to text me about hoping to get off from work early for her birthday later this week. When I asked she had in mind provided she was able to get off, she said she'd want to go out.

Tying in to what I wrote earlier, can I assume I've been invited to the celebration (unless it's her and some girl friends)? I mean, HB 9.5 brought the topic up to me, right?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ruthless

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Ask her out. Upside-you go out alone. Downside- you get the solid invite to the party.
 

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Like I say almost daily --> F*ck first analyze later.

Don't analyze women you're not f*cking. Decide exactly what you want from a woman and go for it. If she rejects you.. move onto the next.

This is not to say you must f*ck her immediately after meeting her. All you need to do is not analyze or prioritize her until she f*cks you. Don't go out of your way, don't chat for hours on the phone, don't go shopping with her, etc. The more neutral/non-sexual time you spend with her.. the more likely you will be friend zoned or put in the "men to exploit" (beta fag) zone.

A relationship is the most valuable thing a man offers a woman. Don't give it away for free (like most beta fags do). :nono:

Its the man's job to f*ck and the woman's job to "bond" and seduce. Most modern women don't bother with this job anymore because men are so desperate to wife them up on first sight.
 

TheCWord

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PlayHer Man said:
Its the man's job to f*ck and the woman's job to "bond" and seduce. Most modern women don't bother with this job anymore because men are so desperate to wife them up on first sight.


If there is anything PHM gets consistently right, it's this.

And to respond to your OP: no, you actually need an invite. Especially because she's new. Why are you so anxious about going, anyway? Trying to be the boyfriend? Slow down.
 

Bokanovsky

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PlayHer Man said:
This is not to say you must f*ck her immediately after meeting her. All you need to do is not analyze or prioritize her until she f*cks you. Don't go out of your way, don't chat for hours on the phone, don't go shopping with her, etc. The more neutral/non-sexual time you spend with her.. the more likely you will be friend zoned or put in the "men to exploit" (beta fag) zone.
This is solid advice. Trying to analyze what a chick you just met says or does is a waste of time.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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