"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Can I ask a girl with a BF out to a coffee?

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ok, so as I take dance lessons and approach girls everywhere the list of girls I talk to is growing each day, but many of them already have boyfriend, so should I just ignore the fact, and keep playing my game?

Somehow they are attracted, and talking to me despite having BF, today one girls even forced me to cheek kiss her, after building very strong rapport for 20 minute in a bus, I've only talked to her once before...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Girls with a boyfriend is dangerous territory. One that I want to break into. Right now I'm guessing that 90% of attractive women are in relationships. Even if they don't like the guy they are simply with him so they won't be single.

The #1 girl on my list right now has been with her boyfriend for 2 years and they constantly break up and get back together. Obviously something is wrong with their relationship and I think she keeps getting back with him because she gets lonely not being in a relationship. IMO I think she is waiting for a guy that is better than her current BF who can "take" her away from him.

As for how to get women who are in "relationships," I haven't figured it out yet.
 
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young_gun

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Yeah, it's possible to go out to coffee / lunch with them, because that's a pretty casual thing to do. It's not like you're taking her out to a fancy dinner and then a movie date. LOL. Her boyfriend would have none of that. But since it's a pretty casual thing, I'm sure it would be ok. Couldn't hurt to ask!

I went out to lunch with this girl all the time last school year and she had a BF. It wasn't a big deal. She was REALLY flirty with me too!
 
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dont see a problem.. just think of it as friends having lunch? I have coffee with one of my best girl mates every once in a while.. shes been commited to her current bf for about 1 yr+..
 
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PectoralisMajor

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Yes is the answer to your qestion.

Keep it casual and treat her no different from anyone else. The important thing to remember is to have FUN with her

Remember - practice practice practice.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yeah have fun wit her. About chicks with men, Maxtro is on it, "Girls are like monkeys, they won't let go of one branch-until they have a firm grasp on another." Keep in mind it might cause beef, tho, her man might be a jealous crazy type....
 
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