"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can having a online relationship translate into a good relationship in real life?

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Hey, I have been chatting with a girl online for several weeks now,we seem to really connect well and have similar personality and interests.The girl even shares the same birthday as me! We are in a internet relationship, she lives in Ontario and I live in Nova Scotia. I know she lives far away from me, and we can't actually meet each other in person. However, We chat regularly on msn and we both have webcams/mic's. I have never had a girlfriend,*sigh*. The girl's in this area aren't my type! I have met girl's from the internet and went on dates, however romantic interest wasn't shown. It felt more like "hanging out" than "dates". What advice would you give me on online and real life relationships ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My friend's sister is going out with a guy she met online.

They've been living together for the past 2 years I think, they seem pretty happy.

She's pretty good looking too, the dude is a really cool guy and a body builder. They're almost mid aged (she's 26ish I think, dude just turned 31)

Definetely possible.
 
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Yeah, I go for intelligent, shy, quiet girls. I'm not interested in girls who are all about parties and acting like a slut and have no self respect. I go for girls who have a good head on their shoulders, intelligent and not all "look at me".
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Will you ever be able to meet eachother in person?

And if so how long before you can meet as in years, months, days??

If you're never able to meet or at least not able to meet for a very very long time you might as well transition it to friendship sooner rather than later or else the inevitable will happen ie she will find another guy and leave you high and dry.

The idea of making it a friendship keeps you from having your heart torn out by her pulling the old LJBF on you when she meets another dude in her area plus it keeps relations between you and her good incase things ever work out and you two do get to meet one day in the future should you both be single at that time.
 
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i met my husband here and we have a wonderful relationship.
online these days, is just another way to meet someone.
it depends on the two of you and where you take it and what you make it.
 
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crackers444 said:
Yeah, I go for intelligent, shy, quiet girls. I'm not interested in girls who are all about parties and acting like a slut and have no self respect. I go for girls who have a good head on their shoulders, intelligent and not all "look at me".
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uhmm, girls like that are everywhere.
 
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