Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Can having a online relationship translate into a good relationship in real life?

crackers444

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Hey, I have been chatting with a girl online for several weeks now,we seem to really connect well and have similar personality and interests.The girl even shares the same birthday as me! We are in a internet relationship, she lives in Ontario and I live in Nova Scotia. I know she lives far away from me, and we can't actually meet each other in person. However, We chat regularly on msn and we both have webcams/mic's. I have never had a girlfriend,*sigh*. The girl's in this area aren't my type! I have met girl's from the internet and went on dates, however romantic interest wasn't shown. It felt more like "hanging out" than "dates". What advice would you give me on online and real life relationships ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Kev07

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My friend's sister is going out with a guy she met online.

They've been living together for the past 2 years I think, they seem pretty happy.

She's pretty good looking too, the dude is a really cool guy and a body builder. They're almost mid aged (she's 26ish I think, dude just turned 31)

Definetely possible.
 

crackers444

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Yeah, I go for intelligent, shy, quiet girls. I'm not interested in girls who are all about parties and acting like a slut and have no self respect. I go for girls who have a good head on their shoulders, intelligent and not all "look at me".
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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KontrollerX

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Will you ever be able to meet eachother in person?

And if so how long before you can meet as in years, months, days??

If you're never able to meet or at least not able to meet for a very very long time you might as well transition it to friendship sooner rather than later or else the inevitable will happen ie she will find another guy and leave you high and dry.

The idea of making it a friendship keeps you from having your heart torn out by her pulling the old LJBF on you when she meets another dude in her area plus it keeps relations between you and her good incase things ever work out and you two do get to meet one day in the future should you both be single at that time.
 

penkitten

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i met my husband here and we have a wonderful relationship.
online these days, is just another way to meet someone.
it depends on the two of you and where you take it and what you make it.
 

Kev07

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crackers444 said:
Yeah, I go for intelligent, shy, quiet girls. I'm not interested in girls who are all about parties and acting like a slut and have no self respect. I go for girls who have a good head on their shoulders, intelligent and not all "look at me".

uhmm, girls like that are everywhere.
 
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