"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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crackers444

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Hey, I have been chatting with a girl online for several weeks now,we seem to really connect well and have similar personality and interests.The girl even shares the same birthday as me! We are in a internet relationship, she lives in Ontario and I live in Nova Scotia. I know she lives far away from me, and we can't actually meet each other in person. However, We chat regularly on msn and we both have webcams/mic's. I have never had a girlfriend,*sigh*. The girl's in this area aren't my type! I have met girl's from the internet and went on dates, however romantic interest wasn't shown. It felt more like "hanging out" than "dates". What advice would you give me on online and real life relationships ?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My friend's sister is going out with a guy she met online.

They've been living together for the past 2 years I think, they seem pretty happy.

She's pretty good looking too, the dude is a really cool guy and a body builder. They're almost mid aged (she's 26ish I think, dude just turned 31)

Definetely possible.
 
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Yeah, I go for intelligent, shy, quiet girls. I'm not interested in girls who are all about parties and acting like a slut and have no self respect. I go for girls who have a good head on their shoulders, intelligent and not all "look at me".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Will you ever be able to meet eachother in person?

And if so how long before you can meet as in years, months, days??

If you're never able to meet or at least not able to meet for a very very long time you might as well transition it to friendship sooner rather than later or else the inevitable will happen ie she will find another guy and leave you high and dry.

The idea of making it a friendship keeps you from having your heart torn out by her pulling the old LJBF on you when she meets another dude in her area plus it keeps relations between you and her good incase things ever work out and you two do get to meet one day in the future should you both be single at that time.
 
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i met my husband here and we have a wonderful relationship.
online these days, is just another way to meet someone.
it depends on the two of you and where you take it and what you make it.
 
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crackers444 said:
Yeah, I go for intelligent, shy, quiet girls. I'm not interested in girls who are all about parties and acting like a slut and have no self respect. I go for girls who have a good head on their shoulders, intelligent and not all "look at me".
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uhmm, girls like that are everywhere.
 
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