"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can good looks work against you?

addicted2money

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Dude women aren't giving up on you because you're too good looking. You said it yourself they give you eye contact and that's about as much as they do. Guys are the ones who lead and approach. Girls aren't supposed to approach you. And the ones that do are just messed up, or waaaaay horny/desperate. I wouldn't want to date a girl who approached me first. Goes to show she has some dominant/feminist complex that would probably lead to issues later.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dannyrt34 said:
For example, if the average guy talks to a girl and lays down some C&F comments, making fun of her, and teasing her all in good fun. He'll come off as confident.

Now when a good looking guy does the same thing, he seems stuck-up.

To get past that you might actually have to be nicer. I'll explain it again a different way. The average guy needs to bring a girl DOWN to his level for her to be interested in him, he does this by teasing her and pointing out certain things about her she may be self concious about (be respectful though). And a good looking guy needs to bring that same HB10 UP to his level, to make her feel like she basically has a chance. To do this you actually give more compliments and be nicer to her.

Understand? Trust me it works

think im gonna take this on board.
good advice.

im a good looking guy, but not very confident, and i dont think girls see me as very approachable.

i know im going off on a tangent here but how do you think your weight affects your game. because im a pretty skinny guy, about 5' 11" 9 stone, and i have a baby face. this automatically puts me at a slight disadvantage right?

im sure people look down on me even before ive opened my mouth.

i know what advice people will give to this.. carry yourself better.
 

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randalll said:
think im gonna take this on board.
good advice.

im a good looking guy, but not very confident, and i dont think girls see me as very approachable.

i know im going off on a tangent here but how do you think your weight affects your game. because im a pretty skinny guy, about 5' 11" 9 stone, and i have a baby face. this automatically puts me at a slight disadvantage right?

im sure people look down on me even before ive opened my mouth.

i know what advice people will give to this.. carry yourself better.

let me know how the advice works out for you. thanks!
 

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I think I have the same problem as u do. I can say that I'm a good-looking guy; however, I used to have a severe acne problem and that made my face look horrible and that was detrimental to my confidence a lot. Now when the acne is gone, girls start noticing me and giving me IOIs. However whenever I try to give them some of my attention, they back off immediately and this frustrate me a lot. I don't really know wat I'm going to do lol
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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