"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Can good looks work against you?

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Dude women aren't giving up on you because you're too good looking. You said it yourself they give you eye contact and that's about as much as they do. Guys are the ones who lead and approach. Girls aren't supposed to approach you. And the ones that do are just messed up, or waaaaay horny/desperate. I wouldn't want to date a girl who approached me first. Goes to show she has some dominant/feminist complex that would probably lead to issues later.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dannyrt34 said:
For example, if the average guy talks to a girl and lays down some C&F comments, making fun of her, and teasing her all in good fun. He'll come off as confident.

Now when a good looking guy does the same thing, he seems stuck-up.

To get past that you might actually have to be nicer. I'll explain it again a different way. The average guy needs to bring a girl DOWN to his level for her to be interested in him, he does this by teasing her and pointing out certain things about her she may be self concious about (be respectful though). And a good looking guy needs to bring that same HB10 UP to his level, to make her feel like she basically has a chance. To do this you actually give more compliments and be nicer to her.

Understand? Trust me it works

think im gonna take this on board.
good advice.

im a good looking guy, but not very confident, and i dont think girls see me as very approachable.

i know im going off on a tangent here but how do you think your weight affects your game. because im a pretty skinny guy, about 5' 11" 9 stone, and i have a baby face. this automatically puts me at a slight disadvantage right?

im sure people look down on me even before ive opened my mouth.

i know what advice people will give to this.. carry yourself better.
 

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randalll said:
think im gonna take this on board.
good advice.

im a good looking guy, but not very confident, and i dont think girls see me as very approachable.

i know im going off on a tangent here but how do you think your weight affects your game. because im a pretty skinny guy, about 5' 11" 9 stone, and i have a baby face. this automatically puts me at a slight disadvantage right?

im sure people look down on me even before ive opened my mouth.

i know what advice people will give to this.. carry yourself better.

let me know how the advice works out for you. thanks!
 

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I think I have the same problem as u do. I can say that I'm a good-looking guy; however, I used to have a severe acne problem and that made my face look horrible and that was detrimental to my confidence a lot. Now when the acne is gone, girls start noticing me and giving me IOIs. However whenever I try to give them some of my attention, they back off immediately and this frustrate me a lot. I don't really know wat I'm going to do lol
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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