Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yes, it is possible for a guy and girl to wing for each other. Your "friend" introduces you to guys. In return, you introduce him to girls.BBbardot said:any idea?
well i have a friend like that but his friends are lameMike32ct said:Yes, it is possible for a guy and girl to wing for each other. Your "friend" introduces you to guys. In return, you introduce him to girls.
This works when you like each other as friends, but are not really interested in hooking up with each other. Then, they're shouldn't be a jealousy issue.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
EXAAAACTLY. This is deep game, my dude. It also works online when you are seen with fly, attractive women. Good sh*tCJ 101 said:A female cannot be refered to as a wing I think the word Pivot is the right term, a female especially an attractive female who accompanies you to a club or any sort of outing will automatically attract female attention to you because it's a known fact that having an attractive female with you will get other females to notice you in a positive manner because other females think " WELL IF SHE'S WITH HIM THEN THERE MUST BE SOMETHING AMAZING ABOUT HIM". So yes a female can act as your pivot, so go out there and play the game.
Like most guys, I used to hate the blocking. But now, I'm at a point where I actually FEEL SORRY for single women that are out with a group of their girlfriends. With all the blocking going on, she has little chance to meet a decent guy, unless she secures that rare unanimous vote of approval from all members of the board lol.penkitten said:when girls go out in a group of two or more, they dont refer to each other as wingmen. they just say they are going out.... but they either wing for each other or they block each other.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
They have ****blocks.BBbardot said:any idea?