Let me help you with a few ideas on where to start:
I. Set up some physical goals:
Even if your already in good shape, it can't hurt to put yourself in better shape. You will feel better, more confident, and live longer. Exercising actually releases dopamine from your brain afterwards, and scientists say that it can fight depression. Besides that, it's no secret that women love a guy who is in good shape.
- Get that eight pack you've always wanted. Cut down some of that body fat, and start doing some crunches. Women love abs, and you will probably find yourself staring in the mirror a lot more often.
- Start running. A lot. You will improve your stamina, which will improve your stamina in the sack. It's also going to help you out in boot camp when you leave for the Navy.
- Its not for everyone, but if you think it's your style, bulk up a little bit. Start lifting weights, and you'll be thanking yourself in no time. Having a build can really boost confidence.
II. Find a hobby, and do it.
Find something that you are passionate about, and apply yourself to it. This can be anything. Cars, music, sports, writing, drawing... It can even be somethings that you may not have expected to like. Volunteer as a Big Brother, or do some work for the red cross or other charities. It sounds stupid, but you would be surprised how good you feel doing it. Plus, it's a great place to meet women.
- The idea here is to find something that truly makes you happy, and do it. For me, I love music and writing. Mostly, I enjoy being a lyricist. It falls somewhere in between hip-hop and poetry, but for me its a great release. I can talk about my dreams, what stresses me out, or even about what I was doing that day. Sometimes I show it to other people, sometimes I don't. But it makes me feel good doing it.
III. Make a lot of friends, and make friends with their friends. Then make friends with the friendses friends!
Expanding your social network can open up doors to you that you never would have thought to be options. Knowing people and their interests is great, and chances are you'll make some really close friends. Talk to anybody, people that you wouldn't ordinarily talk to or otherwise. When I walk down the street, I say hello to about anybody, and if the situation seems appropriate I sit down and talk to them for a minute.
Ever see the scenes at the beginning of movies where a guy walks down the sidewalk and everyone says hello to them? Wouldn't that be nice?
The term around here for it is social proof. People know you, like you, and talk about you in a positive way. By consequence, people that don't know you may hear about you. I've actually had it happen to me where I was at a house party and some people walked up to me and asked me if I was (MY NAME). I said that I was, and they started talking to me about a story they heard about me and some friends getting drunk at a party and making a raft to float on in someones pond.
* That night I made two new friends, and got three phone numbers *
Get out there and do it man!
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