"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can any Master Don Juan post a brief overview of what is a Man/DJ?

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Now don't get me wrong, I have been reading LOADS of articles, but there are so many I tend to get confused, so I was wondering if any of you experienced guys could resume what it is to be a Man and/or a DJ (say a list with short explanation of every terms/way of action/thinking/etc). I don't want huge explanations, I can find that on multiple topics all across the board. Only brief stuff. And I don't only mean on the level to get woman, but on the level to improve yourself, improve who you are to better accept yourself. I guess it would be better that way than to be told a bunch of techniques on how to flirt with girls and always failing because you are fake and you act like someone that you aren't.

Now this would not only be helpful to me, but to everyone, who like me, read a lot, but tend to get confused and lost.

Also, if a topic like this exists, instead of flaming me, please send me the link and I'll close this one.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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THE_ADDMAN said:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16436

Thats a good start.
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It's good, but not exactly what I had in mind.

I was hoping for something more like the DJ bible, yet A LOT more brief and easy to navigate with everything important to the DJ philosophy in a list with brief explanations. Say not the whole articles about every point, but a brief resumé of what it is and how to act it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nighthawk said:
Balls.
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Yea ok I know that. I'm not a noob lol I've read a lot about all of the DJ stuff... It's just it would help an awful lot to have a huge resumé by a real pro of the forums... Hell it could be an article worth of being on the bible, but I just don't have the skills nor knowladge to do it myself.
 
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Actually I posted in the wrong thread and edited it to say that because it's all I could think to add right now.

Let me think about it more and get back to you.
 
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Nighthawk said:
Actually I posted in the wrong thread and edited it to say that because it's all I could think to add right now.

Let me think about it more and get back to you.
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Great thanks a lot you rock
 
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Being a real DJ is about learning the good concepts of the DJ info here, throwing out the bad, and then applying it, not just sticking around on this forum. Don't get me wrong, sharing experience and incite is good, but once you learn the concepts, apply them and be the real man. Pook evolved into a man and has been long gone, and others are gone too.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The essence of being a man is often described by phrases "be yourself," "follow your heart," "be bold." The problem is, for most people these phrases mean nothing. Most people have forgotten what it means to be yourself, follow the heart, be bold. Most people haven't aligned their lives to their dreams in so long, these are just empty catch-phrases to them.

Forget about understanding a rigorous logical description of what it means to be a man or a DJ. That would either be false or reductive. In any case, logically understanding such a thing would not get you a step closer to becoming the man of your dreams. Read this carefully: you will only understand what it means by doing it, and not a second before.

But since you wanted a description, this is the best I can do. Imagine your ideal self - not just in terms of muscles and diet, material things and women, although they are perhaps a part of your ideal self - your ideal self in terms of behavior. Are you courageous, are you honest, are you good, are you hard-working, are you witty, are you smart? Of course you are! Being yourself is actually just a matter of actualizing your ideal self, combining dream and day in Pook's well-known phrase. It makes no logical sense to say "you are yourself when you are your ideal self" but that is the only way to describe it. You see how this discussion has descended into absurdities? The only way to understand it is to feel it. Don't worry so much about understanding. You can understand the logical reasoning behind every single post on this board and still never approach a woman and still say repulsive things. You can read all the posts in the world about being man and still be a woman!

Act! Bring your ideal self to life in every way. What good is another person's vision of what it means to be a man. What's YOURS?!
 
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a man / dj is someone who tries his best to be a good person but doesnt let anyone walk all over him like a doormat. he is confident in his own choices and decisions because he has the balls to take responsibility for his own actions. he also knows when to hold 'em and he knows when to fold 'em.
 
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