"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Can AFC lapses be overturned by doing the opposite?

pete101

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is it possible to reverse any temporary afc lapses such as conveying neediness or clinginess or being overly keen?

the girl im seeing has high interest but i made the mistake of telling her i wanted to see her yesterday after our great date on thursday. she was all for it but in a drunken state and i knew i was being impatient. 1st i said i wanted to see her this weekend, she complied, then i raised the bar and said the next day (temporary afc lapse showing keeness)

when it came to yesterday i appeared too excited in response to her texts about meeting up. in the end we didn't meet up, i dont know if cos i was coming across too available or if she genuinely had a reason.

if i cut contact for a few days can i reverse this temporary demonstration of availability?

right now she'll feel i'm really into her, too available maybe needy and clingy. but this is the only time i've shown this since we've been seeing each other. she has high IL, but for how long? if i cut any contact till next week or when i see her on campus is that the best way to reel myself back in or is it too late?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Darth_Qurashi

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yea dude man dont give up. if u like the girl, then do watever u think u should do. u'll never know if u dont try. just be prepared for the worse though, but expect the best, hope it works out for u man.
 

Alle_Gory

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You're going to be focused on not being an AFC. Which is BAD because you'll always be thinking about it.

What you should be thinking about is doing the right thing, which is to act like a man or a Don Juan whatever you want to call it. The opposite of something bad is something less bad.
 

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I'd say cool it a little bit. Pull back a bit & if she has high IL as you say, she will come to you. You want her to do this & for her to be the one asking "When am I gonna get to see you again?"

Maybe tell her that you're busy & that when you find the time you'll try to let her know. Wait a few days & give her a buzz, don't go calling back the same or even next day.

Just my $.02
 

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It doesn't matter. Don't overanalyse. Your initial believed p*ssiness shouldn't break the deal. Despite what everyone on here preaches, I believe if a girl is keen on you during the early stages of courtship, you're allowed a few p*ssy slip ups. However, just don't let is become a habit, or it will break the deal.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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