"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can a WOMAN be a leader of a Country?

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A woman's suitability for leadership is inversely proportional to her femininity. Face it, a woman who wants to lead - for real - cannot be like your average woman; the world will walk all over a sensitive, nurturing, emotionally-dominated woman without a man to shield her.

A female leader needs to be someone that the men around her can respect and trust. She'll need to be disciplined and practical when she needs to be, but human when she can be. She'll have to be seen as sympathetic to her followers, but without giving them power over her in the process. She'll have to be steadfast in the face of obstacles, but without becoming a slave to "the plan", and thus able to adapt quickly when things go wrong. She can't micromanage her subordinates or the process, nor can she blind herself to the big picture by becoming personally involved in things. Finally, she cannot take any attack or praise personally, nor can she expect to be loved ...

... and like countless would-be male leaders, if she thinks she can rely on her position to inspire confidence, loyalty, and obedience, she's doomed.

The problem a lot of women have with power is that it's not natural to them - a powerful woman basically has to fake it in order to make it. This repressed, deliberate, ego-driven state makes them not only impractically rigid, but often dangerously extreme as well - like born-again Christians, who live their religion in the same rigorous and deliberate way. This means that women generally don't handle power very well; they either burn out, or turn into outrageous stereotypes of power (selfish, callous, tyrranical, irrational, and uninhibited) - ironically, everything the feminazis accuse men of being, but a million times worse since the woman ends up thinking it's what she needs to be, and therefore takes it as far as she can.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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diplomatic_lies said:
Actually it was a man who did it - Sanjay Ghandi. He didn't castrate anyone either, he tried to force sterilise over 20 million males. Although this was done during his mother's reign, so she can take some of the credit.

Why India didn't implement a one-child policy is beyond me...
Well they didn't implement it coz its a democracy. Anyways thank God they didn't do it, coz look at China, their working population is predicted to go down in a few decades and the dependency ratio is increasing. OF course India has to find jobs for all these people, otherwise we might have a huge problem in our hands.
 

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Watch out in 2008 or 2012 for Condi Rice. Probably be a VP candidate for the republican party if not the Presidential candidate.
 

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We have a female president in Finland for second presidental season and we are doing good.

On this matter you should unlearn all the dj bull**** that every woman is weak and has emotional issues. Women in politics are usually much like men and they don't lack leadership abilities. There are good leaders among women too. Being a good leader isn't just a male ability. Plus, who are you to even talk about leadership qualities when 90% of people on this site don't have it.

All I'm saying that don't be a hater if some chick didn't want your whiny ass some time ago. There are great women too.

Anyway, a president in these days in Western society don't rule jack ****! It's the people behind the president that have the real power. Look at Bush for example! He is only a puppet acting a leader. A person that dumb couldn't lead himself to bathroom alone :D
 

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djtdot said:
Well they didn't implement it coz its a democracy. Anyways thank God they didn't do it, coz look at China, their working population is predicted to go down in a few decades and the dependency ratio is increasing. OF course India has to find jobs for all these people, otherwise we might have a huge problem in our hands.
Personally, I find a genocide or two helps reduce the population. Maybe kill 200 million people...or 300 million, and viola! No more food/job problems.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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diplomatic_lies said:
Personally, I find a genocide or two helps reduce the population. Maybe kill 200 million people...or 300 million, and viola! No more food/job problems.
That's how africa is solving it's problems....or compounding them, I can't really tell. Personally I think we need a few more natural disasters to thin out our population. I'm tired of my gas costing me so much. Do we really need some one to drive those rice trucks around EVERY day?
 

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Krassus said:
Um.. Ever heard of the Philippines?

Thats Exactly why we never hear about the Philippines!:rockon:



On to the real stuff.

No!

Women act upon their emotions Never logic, this causes indiscriable situations which could devastate the country if not controled properly!
 

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Anomalous said:
Women act upon their emotions Never logic, this causes indiscriable situations which could devastate the country if not controled properly!
Thatcher's main problem was her complete inability to understand the power of emotion. Case in point: Bobby Sands and the hunger strikers, 1981. A man would've managed that better because he would've had more emotional capacity than the Iron Lady.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Well if the Brits had picked up their balls and executed the strikers en masse, there wouldn't be any more problems, would there? :D
 

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This is a generation of men raised by "single mothers". So the answer is clearly and logically: Yes.
 

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NYtomb said:
Watch out in 2008 or 2012 for Condi Rice. Probably be a VP candidate for the republican party if not the Presidential candidate.
Hillary Clinton is more likely to be running in 2008 than Condi.
 

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Bad_Lil'Pixie said:
As long as she is removed from power one week out of every month! LOL



If there was a woman that had the brilliance, the gift and the skills to do so I do not think she would ever have the respect of the people.

Not just the people of her own country but that of other countries as well.

The lack of respect would lead to lack of credibilty then it turn to lack of trust, etc..... I think it would truly weaken her nation in the eyes of many.

Maybe one day, but I do not think I will see it in my lifetime.
Like Margaret Thatcher?
 

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diplomatic_lies said:
Personally, I find a genocide or two helps reduce the population. Maybe kill 200 million people...or 300 million, and viola! No more food/job problems.
Dude!! If you are not joking you seriously need to get yourself tested by a mental hospital .
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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djtdot said:
Well they didn't implement it coz its a democracy. Anyways thank God they didn't do it, coz look at China, their working population is predicted to go down in a few decades and the dependency ratio is increasing. OF course India has to find jobs for all these people, otherwise we might have a huge problem in our hands.
Actually, China is in the middle of an unprecedented boom in productivity, leaving democratic Russia and India in the dust. A lot of this has to do with their 1978 population control. Which reversed their extreme cycle of poverty induced by Mao's population boom.

Where is the poorest place on earth? Africa.
Where is the highest birthrate on earth? Africa.

See a connection here?
 
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