"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can A Toxic Woman Ever Change?

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The real question is can you change and live free of her.

Sounds like your doing well so far. Job promotion etc.

She had her chance with you. Goodbye.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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soulforge

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Block her. Ignoring her and then blocking her sends the same message of disinterest. Don't let your poison ed mind betray you.

i have decided not to block her... she has sent me upto 10 messages on pof so far... all of them i have ignored & not read.. i will continue to ignore her


been thinking long and hard today... i am better off without this woman.. all she ever bought to my life was drama, insecurities, pain, depression

6 months no contact & her poison is finally leaving...

yes she is attractive & the sex was great... but other than that she has nothing to offer?

she dumped me twice... i would forever be watching my back

no loyalty, no security, no trust, no peace of mind.... why go back to this
 

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Be nice, book her a psychiatrist....
 

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adam225 said:
Be nice, book her a psychiatrist....

well it does seem like she has lost the plot lol

getting stalked by her on pof...


i must admit, it is not easy... as she is a very attractive woman... but defo not a reliable partner for life
 

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soulforge said:
i have decided not to block her... she has sent me upto 10 messages on pof so far... all of them i have ignored & not read.. i will continue to ignore her
Seriously? You should have blocked her a long time ago.

You haven't because you are still very much hung up on her. Your posts scream it. You'll never move forward if you continue standing still. There is no happy ending with her. Not now, not next year, not ever.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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soulforge

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MikeOck said:
Seriously? You should have blocked her a long time ago.

You haven't because you are still very much hung up on her. Your posts scream it. You'll never move forward if you continue standing still. There is no happy ending with her. Not now, not next year, not ever.

i won't deny this... if you read my original post... i admit that i have a moment of weakness coming over me

and the reason why i am posting on here is, so you guys can advice me the right way forward

i still have some lingering feelings for her.. its true... but i know going back to will only end in misery...

this girl dumped me twice and i ended it with her once... but like a fool i got back with her... she ALWAYS comes back!!!

this time round my doors are closed to her for good
 

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Women hardly ever change sadly, it's one of those things they really struggle with - it's never their fault no matter what, it's always his or someone else's fault for making her feel a certain way. You need to develop the mindset of not caring and always being able to walk away AT THE SLIGHTEST PROBLEM. As soon as she starts acting like a fvck-up, DUMP HER ASS.
 

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it has been 9 months now since i went no contact on my ex.. even now she is trying to contact me & is trying to hoover me back in for the 4th or 5th time!

she was toxic, manipulative, cruel and put me through some some serious head ****s!!!

i still think about some of the good times we had... but going back to her is something i could never do

i still dont have a girlfriend... i have banged alot of chicks, but nothing serious..

some days i feel kind of low & miss having someone in my life... but i will not let that toxic woman back into my life... no matter how much she begs!
 
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