"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can a man start at 40?

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People who are unhappy and who live "broken lives" have often been without the results they desire for so long that they no longer believe they can produce the results that they want. They do little or nothing to tap their potential and begin to try to find out how they can get their life to where they're doing as little as possible.

From such actions, what results do they achieve? Of course, they are miserable results that break down their beliefs even more, if that's possible
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The New Science Of Personal Achievement
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Atom Smasher has a pretty compelling story.

Of my friends that are virgins, one is a hopeless case that will end up as that 40 year old man and the other is improving every day due to character and willpower differences that Bingo mentioned. Also, hate to admit it but the one improving is better looking and gets attention from women unprovoked, as well as lives in a more robust area for picking up women, which could account for the differences. Negative vs positive feedback loops.

Strangely enough, the more bitter one actually has had more lifetime success with women though....mainly crawling his way out of the friend zone after kissing womens' a$$es...so even his experience is counterproductive lol.
my point stands. a guy who hasn't even had a date by 40 doesn't have a chance in hell of getting a lay. a beta loser
 

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There is something I am trying to figure out. There is a universal language for all humans, maybe a movement or sound or sound with a specific form of body language, that can cause a women to be so turned on somehow just by what you did. I'm wondering how to do it though. Maybe it differs for each person. But, if someone could figure this out, they could marry pornastars in their 90s
 

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ImTheDoubleGreatest! said:
There is something I am trying to figure out. There is a universal language for all humans, maybe a movement or sound or sound with a specific form of body language, that can cause a women to be so turned on somehow just by what you did. I'm wondering how to do it though. Maybe it differs for each person. But, if someone could figure this out, they could marry pornastars in their 90s
I highly doubt it. PUA gurus have been promising this "Secret Body Language Trick to Increase Attraction 97 Percent" for years.

I don't think body language has much to do with increasing attraction. Poor body language can LOWER attraction, but I have my doubts that "good" body language can materially INCREASE attraction beyond what was already there.
 

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Geez would it be possible. I'm totally Joe Average with minimal game and I've had over 40 women by age 45 including one marriage and 3 other live-ins. Quality was variable but last 3 were at least HB7s - which is all I'm aiming for - you need personality more for the long-haul. Does get harder as u get older - women in their 30s have more baggage than Gucci but hey don't we all ;-)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Espi said:
I became aware of the PUA community at 35 and have since met and laid more women than in the previous 20 years.
We're not talking about improving. The guy in the OP's example has never dated, has never even kissed a girl! Can he improve? Well, he sure as heck can't do much worse!

But to be 40 years old and never to have even kissed a girl? That guy is going to have some severe inner game issues that are going to be tap dancing in his head. I can't say it's impossible for him, but he's going to have a huge uphill battle.
 
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