"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Can a loner get a girl?

Boschy

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penkitten said:
flash back : dylan 90210 loner got all the girls.
Heh heh heh. I used to think I was too well-balanced and stable to be attractive to women. :D

To the original poster: I had a similar conversation with an artist friend of mine. I didn't like what he was producing, and he protested. But then I said, "Hey, you do whatever you want. If others like it, you will become rich and successful. However, if nobody goes for it, don't come crying to me that you've sunk into obscurity."

Which is to say, be a loner if that makes you happy. However, just remember that most people in the world are social and are happy to spend time around others. You'll be limiting your options if you don't learn to be more flexible. If you're going to be a loner, be one by choice, not because you don't have any social skills.

It's like a smoker saying, "I'm never gonna quit, so any girlfriend of mine needs to be OK with that." Yeah, sure, fine. Just don't complain later that you're lonely because most single women are averse to smokers.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Cage said:
My original point was that SHE may not see it in a good way. I know several women who have all x'd guys off because he didn't like to go out or had that many friends. He may get the girl, but again, from MY experience, not having friends isn't seen in a positive light.

Understand?

Ok, right there, what Cage said. Not to highjack, but I think this might be the issue. I feel like I'm in the same boat. It's like, I don't have a clue about dance clubs, or having couples dinner dates and all that.

I think the loner thing can put a very serious damper on things. It's best to improve that area (easier said than done, I know)
 

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Think Sean Connery in James Bond. He was a loner
 

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I can relate to this thread very much! I am a loner and don't really have many friends, that I hang out with much. This is a problem for me because, it's difficult to find a girl being a loner(other than internet). I don't go to bars or clubs.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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