"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can a loner get a girl?

Boschy

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penkitten said:
flash back : dylan 90210 loner got all the girls.
Heh heh heh. I used to think I was too well-balanced and stable to be attractive to women. :D

To the original poster: I had a similar conversation with an artist friend of mine. I didn't like what he was producing, and he protested. But then I said, "Hey, you do whatever you want. If others like it, you will become rich and successful. However, if nobody goes for it, don't come crying to me that you've sunk into obscurity."

Which is to say, be a loner if that makes you happy. However, just remember that most people in the world are social and are happy to spend time around others. You'll be limiting your options if you don't learn to be more flexible. If you're going to be a loner, be one by choice, not because you don't have any social skills.

It's like a smoker saying, "I'm never gonna quit, so any girlfriend of mine needs to be OK with that." Yeah, sure, fine. Just don't complain later that you're lonely because most single women are averse to smokers.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Cage said:
My original point was that SHE may not see it in a good way. I know several women who have all x'd guys off because he didn't like to go out or had that many friends. He may get the girl, but again, from MY experience, not having friends isn't seen in a positive light.

Understand?

Ok, right there, what Cage said. Not to highjack, but I think this might be the issue. I feel like I'm in the same boat. It's like, I don't have a clue about dance clubs, or having couples dinner dates and all that.

I think the loner thing can put a very serious damper on things. It's best to improve that area (easier said than done, I know)
 

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Think Sean Connery in James Bond. He was a loner
 

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I can relate to this thread very much! I am a loner and don't really have many friends, that I hang out with much. This is a problem for me because, it's difficult to find a girl being a loner(other than internet). I don't go to bars or clubs.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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