To answer briefly:
-Attention W
-History of cheating
-More than ~5 partners before 20 years old
-Stories seem sketchy
TBH, the worst of all is the attention wh0ring and not cutting off other male contact while in a relationship. It's disrespectful and keeps orbiters on the short leash.
I am convinced 9s and 10s are all AWs after my experiences. Am I wrong?
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Long answer:
With her, in terms of specific events, wh0redom was:
-I asked her out and she said she had a bf, offered LJBF, I said "not interested" and cut contact. 2 weeks later she calls me up and asks to hang -- I ASSUME she is now single. After I bang her for 4 days, she says "I just now broke up with my bf to be with you"
-Starts telling me about getting "eiffel towered" and seems proud. I told her I didn't want to hear anymore. Maybe I should've let her talk more to get the whole picture of her history.
-Tells me some guy in her past wanted to make her an escort/hooker, also as if she were proud. I told her I wanted to puke and she wiped the smile right off her face. She brought it up again months later when complaining about finances.
-Told me she was raped 3 times, described the scenarios, then later starts telling me other "forced" sex tales w/ other "perpetrators" that weren't included in the original "3 rapes" story. I started wondering what was rape, what was regret, what was self-sabotage, fiction/truth, etc. At some point in the end stages of our relationship she said "it feels like you've been raping me for the last 6 months."
-After 2 years together told me she cheated on her ex (the same one she dumped to be with me) with 10 diff guys to "try to understand what happened to her" (referring to rape). (I think this one mentally put the nail in the coffin for me)
-Always hugging some guy friend seemingly anywhere we went. Grocery store, mall, whatever. Always some guy that knew her. Always some guy texting her. Slept with her phone under her pillow. She was also very touchy with guys -- in fact I never recall her being touchy with women. She put her hand on my brother's thigh while they were talking, she put her hand on a guy's forearm at a bar that we both met at the same time. The touching was usually long like 5+ seconds.
-I saw her put a piece of food in her boss's mouth when I was picking her up from work one time.
-She decided about every 3 to 6 months that she was in love with her ex, I'd go NC, and then a month later she'd be back.
I know I made AFC mistakes for sure, but I am trying to learn.
I was very stern with her at the beginning. But I never felt like any previous gfs had to be reprimanded like children, so after a while it was an awkward role for me. In retrospect, she was well-behaved when I treated her like a kid. But I thought I made my boundaries/points clear and moved on. I didn't realize I would constantly have to uphold that fatherly role to keep her in check. And maybe that wouldnt have even worked.
I've had 4 LTRs and the 2 hottest were the most trouble, the last one being the worst.
BTW this chick was 19 when we met. When she turned 21 (and I became aware of her over the top cheating with her ex) I threw in the towel. I knew after she wanted to start meeting her "friends" at the bar it was all over for us anyway.