Can’t get hard with this chick

captain55

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I’ve slept with this chick twice. Just tried banging her a few hours ago and was able to get the job done but nothing to brag about. I was only about 70% of my full size.

I am pretty embarrassed because I feel like she had high expectations for me.

I went home and rubbed one out and was hard as a rock looking at some porn in a matter of a minute. Nothing wrong with my erections.

I just couldn’t get turned on for some reason. I really like this girl and want to keep her I care about her but I’m starting to wonder if the problem is her? Any advice? She was giving me head and doing everything she could to get me hard but nothing...

Slept with a different chick a few months ago first night I met her and was great absolutely no issues.

I want to redeem myself and really give it to her good one time...she’s still talking to me but **** maybe I should just be done with it and move on to another girl
 

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I’ve slept with this chick twice. Just tried banging her a few hours ago and was able to get the job done but nothing to brag about. I was only about 70% of my full size.

I am pretty embarrassed because I feel like she had high expectations for me.

I went home and rubbed one out and was hard as a rock looking at some porn in a matter of a minute. Nothing wrong with my erections.

I just couldn’t get turned on for some reason. I really like this girl and want to keep her I care about her but I’m starting to wonder if the problem is her? Any advice? She was giving me head and doing everything she could to get me hard but nothing...

Slept with a different chick a few months ago first night I met her and was great absolutely no issues.

I want to redeem myself and really give it to her good one time...she’s still talking to me but **** maybe I should just be done with it and move on to another girl
Sometimes the energy aint right
 

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I keep Viagra on hand for those situations. Sometimes your subconscious doesn't like something..... could be you are nervous around her, or could be you really aren't that turned on by her. If, after the third bang, I still need a boner pill with her, I realize I'm just not into her physically and I move on.

I'd suggest easing up on the porn and masturbation too. When you masturbate, do it with a VERY light grip, not the death grip most people do it with. Yeah the death grip gets the job done much faster and it can be frustrating how long it takes with a lighter grip, but no vagina on earth will resemble the death grip so you aren't doing yourself any favors there.
 

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Buy this weed and drink tea from it, find out how to do tea out of this stuff. It's called fvcker's weed in lamans terms, when you drink it your performance and erections increase naturally. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thymus_(plant)

It's dirt cheap and it does the job. Just make sure you don't buy pills, it's sh1t, get the dried version. Here for example

 
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SoSuave666

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Stop jerking off, stop watching so much porn. That's your problem no doubt about it. If you like a chick and find her sexually attractive you should not be having any problems.
 

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You’re probably nervous and in your head? When sex is just sex it’s easy to be rock hard, no emotional or other thoughts are not involved. It’s simple. It’s a means to your end.

When there is awoman a man really likes, there’s more happening mentally; more to lose even if you do have prize mentality. It’s more vulnerable. Sex isn’t just sex anymore.

Take away thoughts of performance and be in the experience. Let your body do what it does.

Only you know the real reason why it doesn’t get hard. So with that reason in mind, investigate and figure a way by it.
 

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“When sexual performance anxiety occurs, stress hormones in his body constrict his blood vessels, which mean less blood is flowing to his penis, making it harder to get hard.”
 
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Of course. Makes sense too. When you’re with a woman for just sex you’re relaxed because you know it’s the agreement.
But if your worried about forcing the sex or worried if youll get hard or worried if youll perform well its going to be problematic.
 

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When I don’t jerk off for 3 days straight I’m h0rny enough to fvck 2’s. Also I try to never look at porn. If I need to jerk off that badly I do it to my plates. Porn is the fakest sh1t ever and totally messes with your brain. In today’s extreme face and anal railing the guy is in pain, the girl is in pain, both are faking a good time..also, does anyone like to fvck standing up while holding the girl up? I’m a muscular dude but it feels way too much like I’m exercising. And then they sometimes bring in a fake d1ck for the money shot. It’s all with the viewer in mind.
 
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I’ve slept with this chick twice. Just tried banging her a few hours ago and was able to get the job done but nothing to brag about. I was only about 70% of my full size.

I am pretty embarrassed because I feel like she had high expectations for me.

I went home and rubbed one out and was hard as a rock looking at some porn in a matter of a minute. Nothing wrong with my erections.

I just couldn’t get turned on for some reason. I really like this girl and want to keep her I care about her but I’m starting to wonder if the problem is her? Any advice? She was giving me head and doing everything she could to get me hard but nothing...

Slept with a different chick a few months ago first night I met her and was great absolutely no issues.

I want to redeem myself and really give it to her good one time...she’s still talking to me but **** maybe I should just be done with it and move on to another girl

nothing to be concerned about you just arent sexually attracted to her , happend to me about 3 years ago with a chick i was dating we got on ok but in bed the spark just wasn't there , she kept telling me she was an amazing bang but when it came to it she was like a dead fish

the relationship fizzled out quite quickly and she went abit crazy after that
 

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nothing to be concerned about you just arent sexually attracted to her , happend to me about 3 years ago with a chick i was dating we got on ok but in bed the spark just wasn't there , she kept telling me she was an amazing bang but when it came to it she was like a dead fish

the relationship fizzled out quite quickly and she went abit crazy after that
The energy. Maybe she was electric with someone else.
 

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The energy. Maybe she was electric with someone else.
Definitely.

I’ve also noticed that when I’m really in to a woman it’s usually not the sexual energy which draws me in the most. Because that’s not what I value most in relationships with women whom I actually want.
Depends how it all begins. Could connect deeply emotionally or intellectually first, then when you get in the bedroom that spark hasn’t yet been discovered, so it takes a couple times to uncover how you vibe In that area. Those two other areas are usually mental centric as well.

Sex is about disconnecting from the head.
This is why most people have the best sex with the person whom their not in a full blown relation with. It’s simpler easier to be slutty and dirty or dominate the heck out of a woman when you know you won’t see him/her again. And exploration is a big part of what we find as great or good.

The best sex I ever had was when I was 24. She was 32 and a lawyer. She came over and we gave each other massages with baby oil. During the massage we teased each other and she rubbed her breasts on me. Eventually she grabs me and starts stroking then it was game on. I had never been rough with a woman before; but this time I was. I rocked her world multiple times. It was very hot in that room. But aside from the sex she wasn’t for me at all. We hung out twice after that and both times I wasn’t in to it. I bet many people here have had that same experience. Funny enough I saw her the other week in a grocery store. I should have dropped a baby oil bottle in her basket, smiled as walked away..
ahh I always think of the best things when the moments passed..

People make sex a bigger deal than it is; and when it’s a bigger deal that leads to a performance mindset. And through that you become outcome driven so you’re not even in the experience.
 
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Definitely.

I’ve also noticed that when I’m really in to a woman it’s usually not the sexual energy which draws me in the most. Because that’s not what I value most in relationships with women whom I actually want.
Depends how it all begins. Could connect deeply emotionally or intellectually first, then when you get in the bedroom that spark hasn’t yet been discovered, so it takes a couple times to uncover how you vibe In that area. Those two other areas are usually mental centric as well.

Sex is about disconnecting from the head.
This is why most people have the best sex with the person whom their not in a full blown relation with. It’s simpler easier to be slutty and dirty or dominate the heck out of a woman when you know you won’t see him/her again. And exploration is a big part of what we find as great or good.

The best sex I ever had was when I was 24. She was 32 and a lawyer. She came over and we gave each other massages with baby oil. During the massage we teased each other and she rubbed her breasts on me. Eventually she grabs me and starts stroking then it was game on. I had never been rough with a woman before; but this time I was. I rocked her world multiple times. It was very hot in that room. But aside from the sex she wasn’t for me at all. We hung out twice after that and both times I wasn’t in to it. I bet many people here have had that same experience. Funny enough I saw her the other week in a grocery store. I should have dropped a baby oil bottle in her basket, smiled as walked away..
ahh I always think of the best things when the moments passed..

People make sex a bigger deal than it is; and when it’s a bigger deal that leads to a performance mindset. And through that you become outcome driven so you’re not even in the experience.
No matter how fine she is or that she attracts you visually sometimes the sexual energy is just not compatible. Consider it a radio station that your tuner simply cannot get to that frequency or that the signal is distorted.
 

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No matter how fine she is or that she attracts you visually sometimes the sexual energy is just not compatible. Consider it a radio station that your tuner simply cannot get to that frequency or that the signal is distorted.
I totally agree.
But when it comes to women who I really like or if they really like me, a little bit of communication clears that road pretty easily. Most of the times if a person has chosen to get naked in your bed they are attracted sexually. People get self conscious or think too much most of the time.

If OP is kissing the woman and getting turned on enough to get her in to bed, I gurentee he’s just in his head. Otherwise he wouldn’t have desire to kiss her and take her clothes off.

No sexual chemistry; you’d know from the second you were talking to her you couldn’t tune in to her satellite to play your music
 
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