"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hey guys, when i go out i meet chicks in the city. most times they take public transit. these girls ride the buses and skytrain late at night, i wont even do that in the day. so my question is, is it alright to phone a girl right after the date to check to see if she made it home okay?

maybe a quick call like: "hey, im just making sure you weren't mugged or stabbed on your way home, no, okay, great, talk to you later."

what do you think, any suggestions or avoid the phone call altogether?

topher
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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not on the first few dates, but once you get to know each other better yeah you can although it will seem weird you phoning to check she is alrite after everytime you go out!
 
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Shouldn't you be driving them home?
 
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Tell her to drop you a txt when she gets home.

Alternatively, you recognise that she's a big girl, and she can look after herself
 
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me, i would probably do a quick call or text.

i dont think its a bad idea to do that, depends on you IMO

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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NO CALL, NO TEXT MESSAGING.

Wait 3 days - She doesnt forget you and also so she knows you busy and arent desperate for her.
 
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Originally posted by padrote
Shouldn't you be driving them home?
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I'm not going 25km each way (50km total) out of my way to drop off a chick on dates 1-3, thats too chumpy for me.

But upon further consideration of your guys comments (thanks), i believe i would phone only if she is LTR potential after date 3.

topher
 
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