"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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calling right after a date

topher

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hey guys, when i go out i meet chicks in the city. most times they take public transit. these girls ride the buses and skytrain late at night, i wont even do that in the day. so my question is, is it alright to phone a girl right after the date to check to see if she made it home okay?

maybe a quick call like: "hey, im just making sure you weren't mugged or stabbed on your way home, no, okay, great, talk to you later."

what do you think, any suggestions or avoid the phone call altogether?

topher
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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not on the first few dates, but once you get to know each other better yeah you can although it will seem weird you phoning to check she is alrite after everytime you go out!
 

padrote

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Shouldn't you be driving them home?
 

ajncaa

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Tell her to drop you a txt when she gets home.

Alternatively, you recognise that she's a big girl, and she can look after herself
 

xiola

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me, i would probably do a quick call or text.

i dont think its a bad idea to do that, depends on you IMO

b
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don_Joffe

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NO CALL, NO TEXT MESSAGING.

Wait 3 days - She doesnt forget you and also so she knows you busy and arent desperate for her.
 

topher

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Originally posted by padrote
Shouldn't you be driving them home?
I'm not going 25km each way (50km total) out of my way to drop off a chick on dates 1-3, thats too chumpy for me.

But upon further consideration of your guys comments (thanks), i believe i would phone only if she is LTR potential after date 3.

topher
 
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