"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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calling or texting first if they don't ever pick up

big weezy

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i know everyone says here call always dont text, but everytime i call they never pick up.. so it sets me back a few days (or few weeks depending what's going on in their schedule over the time like going away etc) before i text something.. sometimes i get dates sometimes i dont.

wouldn't i be better off texting first rather than calling?

i guess a non returned called within a timely manner just isn't worth it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Pierce

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They don't call back or text you back??

I would just wait a day and text something like " i see your a little shy" or something like that.
 

JdelaSilviera

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Text, most people don´t pickup the phone at first try.... Girls are social butterflies, so they can be terribly difficult to reach...
 

MurdocNiccals

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I ALWAYS text (or IM her). If she doesn't text back don't bother. With calls it's sometimes hard to keep up a conversation and can get kinda complicated as you've discovered...
 

Young Juan

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I prefer to call and if she doesn't answer, send a text kinda as my vm, asking about whatever I was calling about. I get a decent response rate
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Deadly_Ripped

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Why don't you leave a message? If she never returns your message, then she doesn't have enough interest to warrant any further contact.
 

PapiChulo

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no returned call or message means no interest.

it doesnt really matter what you do- call, text, send a letter,etc.

I just dialed one up and she doesnt pick up because she recognizes my number. Then I asked my buddy to call her under "private" and not only she picks up right away, but leads a conversation with him without even knowing who it is (stupid b!tch). He says "I am John, from one of your .... blah blah...."

Some wont pick up if they dont recognize the number - they are simply too stupid and scared. Otherwise will tr to get your number as soon as possible,so they can ignore it right off the bet.

I will call and if there is no answer the first time or two, I will send a text to entice her and show her that I could not really care less. They know you called anyway. If she goes cold on you, you go colder.
 

RSanders219

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Nowadays man, it's way more common to text anyone than call. I'd say text first time, then next time you wanna get in touch with the girl and everything went well just call.
 
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