Colin O'Brien
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Yes/no? Sparingly?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Calling chicks "dude" in conversation..
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
yeah lol. I have a lesbian friend at school and occasionally while in a convo I'll address her as "dude" by accident. But then i stop myself and am like "woops."
So i guess don't call a chick dude unless she gives off lesbian vibes or you're strictly platonic friends, or you call everyone dude cuz it's your style.
So i guess don't call a chick dude unless she gives off lesbian vibes or you're strictly platonic friends, or you call everyone dude cuz it's your style.
Lol, I call girls "dude" all the time, but it's my style. Everyone knows that's how I talk lol. Like Silverant said, If it's a self-conscious thing and everyone knows that's how you address people I dont think it should matter, just make sure it doesnt offend them.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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it's ok, and maybe even good.
who knows, every girl is different.
do w/e u want.
who knows, every girl is different.
do w/e u want.
GaryUranga
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I call them dude and man a lot
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it doesnt really make much of a difference if you wanan get technical though, someone said youre placing her in your "friendzone"brett012 said:
my reply to that is that your friendzone is her more than friends zone, ive read lot about treatign her like one of the guys and it seems to be completly ok and actually good, thats what I read/heard.
anyways I really dont think it makes a difference if she likes you already it might amplify her attraction if she thinks youre befriending her, however thats just technical stuff, doesnt really matter imo
AnitaBum
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Yes, I call girls and women, who are not in the friends zone "dude" and "man".
It does not put you in their mind into a friends zone.
If you're interested in the girl and showing sings that you are, and then you come out and say 'sup dude' or just call her 'dude', you're sending a mixed message to her, making her debate in her mind, "does he really like me or not?"
And thats a good thing, women LOVE mixed messages, it plays around with their mind.
It does not put you in their mind into a friends zone.
If you're interested in the girl and showing sings that you are, and then you come out and say 'sup dude' or just call her 'dude', you're sending a mixed message to her, making her debate in her mind, "does he really like me or not?"
And thats a good thing, women LOVE mixed messages, it plays around with their mind.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
AnitaBum
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I don't think there is a difference, as long as you call her something she's not use to being called when being picked up by a guy.brett012 said:
Its got to make her wonder whether you like her. But don't take it too far. Dude is fine.
DismantleRepair
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I call girls dude all the time. I even like to think they are guys when we're making out.
But seriously... I prefer a somewhat cutesy "Hey you" when meeting/greeting. I wouldn't call a girl "man", no matter how close a friend she is, this implies she has manly characteristics, whereas "dude" is more of a between-friends term and would work better.
Note that I said "between friends". If you're into a girl, I wouldn't do anything to imply that you're only (or should only be) friends.
But seriously... I prefer a somewhat cutesy "Hey you" when meeting/greeting. I wouldn't call a girl "man", no matter how close a friend she is, this implies she has manly characteristics, whereas "dude" is more of a between-friends term and would work better.
Note that I said "between friends". If you're into a girl, I wouldn't do anything to imply that you're only (or should only be) friends.
penkitten
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dude, wtf?
GaryUranga
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man its good when she has a beard andf you can feel the hairs when makign out
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.