"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Calling chicks "dude" in conversation..

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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sam3083

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Do whatever you want. But, YOU figure out whether it puts you in the friendzone or not. You have to learn whether your personality and status can do something like that.
 

ZenGodMod

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Dudess

Haha!

When you call a chick a "dude", you've just put her in the same level as yours "dudes". You placed her in the friendzone.

So if your intention is not the friendzone, don't "dude" her.
 

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yeah lol. I have a lesbian friend at school and occasionally while in a convo I'll address her as "dude" by accident. But then i stop myself and am like "woops."

So i guess don't call a chick dude unless she gives off lesbian vibes or you're strictly platonic friends, or you call everyone dude cuz it's your style.
 

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Lol, I call girls "dude" all the time, but it's my style. Everyone knows that's how I talk lol. Like Silverant said, If it's a self-conscious thing and everyone knows that's how you address people I dont think it should matter, just make sure it doesnt offend them.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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it's ok, and maybe even good.
who knows, every girl is different.

do w/e u want.
 

ElStud

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It's honestly not that big of a deal. I do it sometimes and they don't really even seem to care. Infact, I know chicks who call other chicks "dude".
 

GaryUranga

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brett012 said:
thank you for that lol, so its it generally a good or bad thing?
it doesnt really make much of a difference if you wanan get technical though, someone said youre placing her in your "friendzone"

my reply to that is that your friendzone is her more than friends zone, ive read lot about treatign her like one of the guys and it seems to be completly ok and actually good, thats what I read/heard.

anyways I really dont think it makes a difference if she likes you already it might amplify her attraction if she thinks youre befriending her, however thats just technical stuff, doesnt really matter imo
 

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Yes, I call girls and women, who are not in the friends zone "dude" and "man".
It does not put you in their mind into a friends zone.
If you're interested in the girl and showing sings that you are, and then you come out and say 'sup dude' or just call her 'dude', you're sending a mixed message to her, making her debate in her mind, "does he really like me or not?"
And thats a good thing, women LOVE mixed messages, it plays around with their mind.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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brett012 said:
Truuuue, what is the difference in calling her dude as opposed to calling her man?
I don't think there is a difference, as long as you call her something she's not use to being called when being picked up by a guy.
Its got to make her wonder whether you like her. But don't take it too far. Dude is fine.
 

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I call girls dude all the time. I even like to think they are guys when we're making out.

But seriously... I prefer a somewhat cutesy "Hey you" when meeting/greeting. I wouldn't call a girl "man", no matter how close a friend she is, this implies she has manly characteristics, whereas "dude" is more of a between-friends term and would work better.

Note that I said "between friends". If you're into a girl, I wouldn't do anything to imply that you're only (or should only be) friends.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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