"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Calling all experienced DJs!! Wow...im really slipping!...

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I havent approached in so long! I cant even remember the last time i even tried....today i was at the mall and i found myself just able to look and think about it but not actually doing it...i think im falling back...id say im a little rough but you at least have to attempt it to actually be tough....

all the openers i know i forget at the moment i even think about approach...even if i comment on the thi8ngs around me...i automatically go into default and start asking the boring typical questions like "whats your name? where ya from? what school do you do to? really? hhaha..blah blah"

its friday night and i should be out...but i have no motivation to go out by myself knowing i have no friends...i told this hb9 i used to know when i used to live in LA(we both moved back to the San Francisco area) and said i was even going to the New Years Eve ball in San Francisco and she said shed be there too....knowing nobody i know is going to go there i dont want to go by myself and look like a loser....

man! life is sucking right now...cant wait till a graduate so i can travel abroad and teach english!...


p.s. sorry for the negativity.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Life has it's ups and downs. Focus on what's important at the moment (graduate) but try to keep other areas of your life balance if you can. And life does get a lot better/interesting after college.
 
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You go to school, right? You share that common interest with everyone there, and it gives you something to talk about. Making friends is about finding common ground. I bet there are clubs and organizations at school as well. That would give you twice the common ground, school plus the interest club.

People tend to get what they want out of life, whether they realize it or not. I'd guess that you actually like being alone. There's nothing wrong with that. I'm an only child who grew up in the middle of nowhere with absentee parents; being alone much of the time is fine with me. But realize that you control the level of your social interactions by how hard you work at them. Like anything else, with your social life, you get out of it what you put into it.
 
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