"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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calling a club girl almost 2 weeks later

RiceHapa888

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met a girl a couple of weeks ago who was all over me and left me her number- I never called...but now that New Years and the other party days are approaching I was thinking of inviting her along for female attention and social proof since she is an HB8 ( I did not tag it cause I'm with an HB9)- should I just call her ass out of the blue? I'm leaning towards it....anyone else ever wait an extended period of time before they called a girl they met in the club?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Its not worth it.

I made a rule to myself that numbers are worthless. Either it should and would already happen the time you've been at the club, or now if you call you'll just look desperate, or if she want's she's the one who will look desperate.

Forget numbers, make it happen that night.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I don't believe any of this.... :rolleyes:
 

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what?

Wait, since its "too late" and "not worth it" why not go a head and give a call anyway.

She gave you a number, at least use it with little expectations than to not use it at all. that makes no sense. If you dont use it the answer is already no. IF you do, well maybe there is a yes in there somewhere.

Go ahead and try.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Vincent

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Hay guyz I got a girls number 4 months ago at a wedding, should i call her?
 

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omfg!!! j00 r s00 g3h 4 n0t c4lling h3r!

(Note: There was sarcasm in that post, right?)

Honestly, though... after reading countless time what a DJ actually is, I've come to the conclusion that a DJ is a DJ because he does what he wants, whenever he wants, and because he feels like it... because he's naturally confident in anything he does.

Now, apparently making a post like that on this board means you're unsure of yourself... so here's whatcha do. Ya grab your nuts, make sure they are there and where they are supposed to be, and once you feel reassured, you call her ass up, and show her the time of her life.

That's the number one problem I have with this board, and why I honestly refuse to post for advice, because I know I'll get tons of advice... very few of it will fit how I would normally handle the situation.

Don't do what other DJ's do, unless it's common advice between ALLLLL DJ's... (e.g. Being confident, improving yourself FOR yourself, living your life YOUR way.) What Trance does works for him. You do what works for you. If you decided this girl might be worth your time (and that's how you should look at it) then go ahead and call her. In my opinion, whatever you do, you can only fail, or succeed. You got a 50/50 shot... that's not bad... considering the odds for winning the lottery or getting struck by lightning...
 

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Skweints

yeah spoken like a true don juan.



i used to do "should i call her ****"



its 2 ****ing stupid and it wastes too much of my thinking time. Now i just do it. If she dosnt answer o well. I dont call her all the freak'n time during that day. I'll maby do it tomorrow or wheneveri dont go "ok so i called her today, that means i cant call her tomorrow causwe i'll seem desperate"


who gives a ****

like this one chick is ****ign hard as hell to get a hold of ever since she lost her cell phone. Once in a while i call to talk (im not that interested anymore since she is 2 hard to get a hold of) but she is always out or wutever and has no answering machine. For a while i thought she was avoiding me so i called on my home phone (which she does not know) and long and behold same ****. so wutever. i dont give a **** anymore its gay.




JUST DO IT!!!!!
 

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What i do is just cause its not worth calling a girl that you have no special raport for. I dont wanna waste time going to meet someone just to work myself to get some kisses and a ****. I rather be with my friends.
 

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Originally posted by RiceHapa888
met a girl a couple of weeks ago who was all over me and left me her number- I never called...but now that New Years and the other party days are approaching I was thinking of inviting her along for female attention and social proof since she is an HB8 ( I did not tag it cause I'm with an HB9)- should I just call her ass out of the blue? I'm leaning towards it....anyone else ever wait an extended period of time before they called a girl they met in the club?
Do NOT wait too long to call club-girls.

Even if she's taken by you, she'll probably be out again the next night and be taken by someone else.

Call while her excitement about meeting you is still fresh in her mind. With girls you meet in neutral situations, you can wait that 3-5 days because they'll think about you during that time. The rush from a club or bar pickup wears off kind of quick, though. If you've waited two weeks to call this girl, she may not even remember who you are...or she'll be over the excitement of having met you. She's not going to be waiting by the phone, that's for sure.

But hey, give it a shot. Maybe you made such a good impression that she was genuinely smitten and you'll be the one she remembers after all this time. Nothing to lose. :p
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Most girls have their own phone rules that if a guy doesn't call them at least 3-5 days after getting the number, they know he isn't that interested.

And you probably aren't that interested in her especially considering it's 2 weeks later.

Some of you may think "Oh just be casual and call her up" No, it doesn't work that way - you're thinking logically not emotionally which girls operate. At most she doesn't know who the hell you were, and if she did she'd think you are just messing with her.

Summary: Too bad, so sad.

PS I know that girls I'm really interested in I'll try to get in contact with her around 3 days after getting number. While girls I'm ehh??? I wait longer.
 
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