"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Calling 2 days later, set up a date right?

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baurman

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Alright when you get a number and you call 2-3 days later. Do you set up the date like for Dinner or something?

Heres the thing, I called this girl 2-3 days after I got her number and asked her questions about herself like what school she went too, where she works, etc. I invited her out for the weekend with her friends and my friends but I kinda want to call her again but then again so she doesn't lose interest. But I don't know what the hell to talk about, juust random stuff? I mean I Just met the girl. Do I just wait until I see her again and then ask her out for dinner or should I just call her and ask her out even though I only knew her for like 2 hours?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Too much focus on one chick. Give her an option and move on. If she bites, she bites. If not, charge out again. I can feel your scarcity mentality emanating through every word of this post.
 
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If you set up a time to see her, don't call her again before you see her. See how it is when you two hang out or have dinner or whatever you have planned. If it goes well, you should be able to pick up on that vibe.

But between the call which sets the date up and the actual date, there should be no attempt from you to contact her.
 
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Don't analyze it so much. Get her #, call during the week, set up a date (i wouldn't drop $40 for dinner on a first date but that's just me), go on the date, and try to score. It's really a simple process.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Alright well I called her after I got her number 3 days later and I was just thinking if she'd lose interested cause I called her and then I didn't call her since.
 
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baurman said:
I called this girl 2-3 days after I got her number and asked her questions about herself like what school she went too, where she works, etc. I invited her out for the weekend with her friends and my friends

What are you crazy? Why would you invite her out with 10 people where there could be 101 distractions? You want to be alone with her, 1 on 1the whole time so she is concentrating on you, not your 6'1 hockey player friend.

but I kinda want to call her again but then again so she doesn't lose interest.

Dude, if you rob a bank, would you sit around loitering in front of the teller with the big bag of money? No, you make your hit and get out right away. Don't worry, she won't lose interest if she said yes to the date.

Do I just wait until I see her again and then ask her out for dinner or should I just call her and ask her out even though I only knew her for like 2 hours?

Huh?
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Sounds like you are in love before you've even spent 2 min with her.
 
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I wouldn't go for dinner... try something more active like going to a park or something... following up with coffee is always great with those things... or ice cream, ice cream is awesome... pretty much the food of the gods... i'm just kinda hungry i think.
 
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