"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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called someone out on there disrespectful behaviour

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ive called someone out on there disrespectful behaviour they dont just do it to me they do it to there loved ones aswell it must be normal to them, ive told them to only contact me when its reflected on,

im bound to get a "how ya doing " text sooner or later

would you lot bring up whether there contacting as theyve reflected on there ****ty behaviour?
best way to deal so the terms are now on yours?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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derby1 said:
ive called someone out on there disrespectful behaviour they dont just do it to me they do it to there loved ones aswell it must be normal to them, ive told them to only contact me when its reflected on,

im bound to get a "how ya doing " text sooner or later

would you lot bring up whether there contacting as theyve reflected on there ****ty behaviour?
best way to deal so the terms are now on yours?
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how dare you? LOLZ!!:p
 
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IMO if you laid your foot down then, when they text, you must follow thru, otherwise they don't think you meant it and you've lost frame
 
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thats what i mean do i bring it up its to with discourteous behaviour?
 
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It's ok to call them out on their bad behavior, but mix in some compliments, and then kiss her.

Example:

"You said you'd be ready an hour ago, what is wrong with you? I love that dress! You look really sexy. Now get your sorry, lazy ass ready".
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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thats what i mean do i bring it up its to with discourteous behaviour?
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Yes, I would. At the very least you are demonstrating that you have boundaries that you are willing to enforce.

You don't have to be an a$$when you do it. Just ask if they have reflected on their behavior and what do they have to say about it. Their reply will speak volumes
 
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so days later ive had a text "you ok? got over your little telling me off" or something of those lines....

i dont find this acceptable adult communication presume best bet is to stay silent?
 
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know the person to well this isnt a new date
 
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