"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Called a girl from a dating site and got vm but...

aron77

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I left a short message but she said her full name so I looked her up on facebook and we have 4 mutual friends, all female and one is my cousin. I don't think I should bring it up in case she thinks it is creepy or something but at the same time all these girls could tell her how great I am. At this point I'm planning on keeping this in my back pocket for a while, what do you think?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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PDubb75

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Back pocket, for sure!

EDIT: I wanna add something to this.

but at the same time all these girls could tell her how great I am.
I once thought this was a good idea. I had 2 friends that knew a girl I was trying to hook up with and I had them mention me to her. Turns out, even when girls/women think they are helping, they are likely saying some things that could hurt your chances. Let her find out about you herself. Don't let other peoples opinions of you determine her own, even if in theory they are good opinions.
 

Iceberg

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Correct.

You don't want other girls talking about you. They'll say something stupid, or they'll build you up as some "nice guy".

Don't get other girls involved. In romance and in life, keep as many things under your control as possible. You dictate this girls' opinion of you....not others.
 

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double
 
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