"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Called a girl from a dating site and got vm but...

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I left a short message but she said her full name so I looked her up on facebook and we have 4 mutual friends, all female and one is my cousin. I don't think I should bring it up in case she thinks it is creepy or something but at the same time all these girls could tell her how great I am. At this point I'm planning on keeping this in my back pocket for a while, what do you think?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Back pocket, for sure!

EDIT: I wanna add something to this.

but at the same time all these girls could tell her how great I am.
I once thought this was a good idea. I had 2 friends that knew a girl I was trying to hook up with and I had them mention me to her. Turns out, even when girls/women think they are helping, they are likely saying some things that could hurt your chances. Let her find out about you herself. Don't let other peoples opinions of you determine her own, even if in theory they are good opinions.
 

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Correct.

You don't want other girls talking about you. They'll say something stupid, or they'll build you up as some "nice guy".

Don't get other girls involved. In romance and in life, keep as many things under your control as possible. You dictate this girls' opinion of you....not others.
 

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double
 
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