"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Call vs Text

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First off I'd like to say thank you very much. All the tips and hints have helped me a lot. I'm quite glad I found the site. My main problem was confidence, but it's great I found the site at such a young age- to think, the many more years of frustration I could have gone through!

Anyway, here's my question. I've read alot of hints, involving when to call etc. I would like to know which is better call or text messaging? Since I'm not really uber confident yet (getting there), I'm leaning more towards text- which one do you guys prefer? Which should I use.

Thanks very much for all responses- sorry if this question has already been asked.

Mixah.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Calling>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>x1000>>>>>>texting

Always

Calling. I dont really wanna explain all the reasons as to why it's better but trust me it will always be better.
 

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'oh I know.. I miss him... I wish I could just read his text!'

'oh I know... I miss him so much.. I wish I could hear that deep sexy voice of his'

This should make it a no brainer.

Also, you can tell if people sound happy to hear from you, or if they sound disinterested. It's also more difficult for them to break plans and easier for you to spot if they're giving a bullshizz excuse/if they're gonna flake.
 

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Originally posted by DJBen
you can tell if people sound happy to hear from you, or if they sound disinterested. It's also more difficult for them to break plans and easier for you to spot if they're giving a bullshizz excuse/if they're gonna flake.
 

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This is pretty much common sense. Lets say we use SI figures to describe the importance of each conversation skill.

Person to person - MDj M=10^6
Text - Dj
Aim/similar - mDj

Sure you can do it, but its pointless. You learn the most through talking person to person, you learn nothing from talking through something else.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I dunno. High School girls could perfer texing over calling, but definetly this is a nobrainer for colage pvssy.

I always call.
 

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Calling is def way better. But I use txt if:

a. It's just a little thing and you know they might be busy (soccer game, church) so like to send something like "call me when you get this" or "you coming to the game tonight?"

b. If I'm in school. Obviously you can't sit and talk on the phone in class. But sometimes class is so boring that I'll just txt random people.
 
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Calling obviously. I know a mate who texts more than he calls her. They have only known each other for 3 months!. I see my bird everyday at college so we don't really talk on the phone a lot. Face to face is better than phone and everything has always been arrange together.
 

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Umm......if this is to set up a date. I hardly think it matters. You shouldn't be talking for ages anyway.
 

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definitely call... If you were texting or whatever and all she said was 'yea' or 'oh' you're in bad shape
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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One more question

Thanks for the feedback. I will call then.

One more question though- if a girl asks for your number rather than letting you have hers what does that say? Low interest? Lack of trust? Thanks again.
 

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Never give the girl your number. It has to be within your control.
 
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