"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hey guys, so I'm talking to this one girl, known her for a while, felt she HAD interest in me although I'm not sure if she still does seeing as we haven't talked in a while, fvcked up and tried to make plans before rebuilding comfort and attraction, ended up getting a maybe, turns out she was "babysitting" tonight and doesn't think she'd be able to make it.

I know I should probably just next her, but she's still an option. What do you guys recommend doing next, calling to just say whatsup? I feel it wouldn't really go anywhere if I just called to ask how her day was etc etc, because she probably gets that a lot. Texting is probably an even worse idea, and I don't see her in person anymore since schools out. What would you guys do in this situation, call and try to chit chat, text and try to chit chat, ask again for another day?

Thanks in advance,
-Mando
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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In a situation like this where I think they lost all attraction in me, I would just start acted stupid and bring on the "jerk". Text her something like "hey ding dong, I'm kinda horny, gonna be masterbating tonight you should c*m." Don't even expect a response or care what she thinks, from this point treat her like one of the guys. You'd be pleasantly surprised if she starts "playing" back.
 

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Yeahhh I don't think thats gonna work haha. She'd probably just be creeped out and never respond to a text again. I'm thinking of just calling her in a couple days, talking for a bit, and telling her that we should hangout. Idk if I should bring up the haunted house again though that seems like a lost cause haha.
 

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jacob said:
In a situation like this where I think they lost all attraction in me, I would just start acted stupid and bring on the "jerk". Text her something like "hey ding dong, I'm kinda horny, gonna be masterbating tonight you should c*m." Don't even expect a response or care what she thinks, from this point treat her like one of the guys. You'd be pleasantly surprised if she starts "playing" back.
hope you are kidding.

Anyways, I would just not contact her for a couple of days maybe even a week or so unless she trys to make some contact back at you. If she is interested then she will make a move since she canceled on you already. Interested girls will make a raincheck.
 

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Err0r said:
hope you are kidding.

Anyways, I would just not contact her for a couple of days maybe even a week or so unless she trys to make some contact back at you. If she is interested then she will make a move since she canceled on you already. Interested girls will make a raincheck.
This is true. I listened to a friend of mine last time that said don't contact her until she contacts you, ended up not talking for a month >_<. But yeah, this is what I was leaning towards, although I'm not even sure if she still has attraction for me, which is what I'm trying to build back up. Just not really sure how frequently I should be calling and when I should ask her out again. Thanks again.

-Mando
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Err0r said:
hope you are kidding.

Anyways, I would just not contact her for a couple of days maybe even a week or so unless she trys to make some contact back at you. If she is interested then she will make a move since she canceled on you already. Interested girls will make a raincheck.
I'm not kidding. You're probably already boring to her. Either she feels you want to get serious with the lovey dovey AFC behavior and that's what starts to drive her away. But if you "play" around with her and keep it light, nothing serious, then she'll start to communicate again. And it doesn't have to be the ding dong masterbate stuff I posted, but something along those lines that'll loosen her up.
 

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jacob said:
I'm not kidding. You're probably already boring to her. Either she feels you want to get serious with the lovey dovey AFC behavior and that's what starts to drive her away. But if you "play" around with her and keep it light, nothing serious, then she'll start to communicate again. And it doesn't have to be the ding dong masterbate stuff I posted, but something along those lines that'll loosen her up.
I still think she just wouldn't return calls. I don't want to be lovey dovey and whatnot, I'd rather just call, chit chat, call, chit chat, then call and maybe ask if she wants to meet at xx on wednesday or something. Was just curious if anyone thinks this approach would work so that I could build comfort with her again and possibly attraction. Thanks again by the way.

-Mando
 

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Called a couple hours ago and left a voicemail, no response, guess its time to move on haha? >_<
 

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this is very typical of females. don't be discouraged. eff it, just act stupid to her from here on, this is how you build attraction. Jerk style
 
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