calibrating ****y funny / signs you've gone too far

[ne0phyte]

just wondering how do you know if you've gone too far doing ****y funny?

lately, i've been testing my boundaries with it, and there are times when I feel like I've gone too far.

for instance, there's this one girl who likes to tell embarrassing stories about herself. it's really easy to neg her, and she seems to like it (always laughing). for example, she says she didn't stop believing in santa until she was 16 (she's 24 now). so i said, "wow, do you know the truth about the tooth fairy then?"

i guess my question is, if they're still laughing (genuinely from what I gauge), does that mean I'm still within the boundaries? and what are some reactions to when you guys have overdone the ****y funny?

 

[JustLurk]

Personally, as long as I concentrate on the "fun" part and not the "jerk" part, it never goes too much into the "jerk" part. Some people can give as good as they get and take crazy negs, some people just can't take it, and some people will give you trouble for negging others.

 

[runner83]

Personally, as long as I concentrate on the "fun" part and not the "jerk" part, it never goes too much into the "jerk" part. Some people can give as good as they get and take crazy negs, some people just can't take it, and some people will give you trouble for negging others.

Push the boundaries and see what happens.

But don't overdo the ****y and funny. i.e. mix it up with normal conversation as well.

Main thing is not to come off as arrogant, since that will be a reflection of your own insecurities. But as long as you mix enough humour into it, arrogance should not be an issue.

At the other end of the scale, also make sure you don't turn into the "entertaining monkey".

Remember that a jerk is simply a guy who puts his own needs equal to or above those of others.

Better to be a jerk and get laid than an "entertaining monkey" who people laugh at, not with.