"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
C&F Suggestions for this situation
- Thread starter ades
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
"Mmm ... 100% Cotton"
(Make sure that the line is directed AT/TO them)
Most of the time they'll turn their back to you or look at you, then you initiate. Works good on girls who are wearing something where you can see their bra strap (like white shirts, for example).
DJ Alejandro
Senior Don Juan
"Hey that's a nice shirt there, I'm thinking of getting it for a friend of mine....do you know what its made out of?"
her- "um I think its...."
"oh wait, i'll just read the tag here, old on a second"
Say it with a smile and she'll get a little embarrassed and the DOOR IS NOW OPENED.
Tails
Senior Don Juan
she stopped and i said: "what does your top say!?"
she turned to face me while holding her top out with her hands so i could read better.
but we all know i wasn't really readying it. i had a good perv and she continued walking with her friends.
not so long ago a girl i knew (not too well) was sitting behind me at the bus station and i turned around, felt her hair and said: "mmm, nice and soft. do you use herbal essences?" she turned around with a wide open shocked mouth, at the same time smiling, because this was infront of the other 15 or 20 people around. was kinda funny
oh and last week a girl on the bus was wearing a top that said: "hey hoe let's go!"
so when she got off and me and my pal was just about getting off, i yelled: "hey hoe let's go!"
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
OMG I saw you from afar and I just had to come and tell you what stood out from your attire so much.... your tag in the back
Hey is that the new style? No one told me... i didn't get that e-mail... I thnik I saw something bout it on queer eye... Ohh Ohh I wanna do it too!
Hmm is the tag the new thing? Popping collars is sooo last year