C+F Banter to Nothing.... HELP!

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by Bussey
... None of that is my fault, shes having problems with her family and her ex and one of her friends....

Noone must have read this statement ..."problems with HER EX" HUH?? She is still attached to dude!!! Maybe if you would have moved earlier and quicker instead of establing rapport with her as a friend you could have nade an impact on her for her to forget about her ex!!

Next time move at a quicker pace - within a week ask her for her home digits!!!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by Bussey
I got her number first week.... I don't get it man, I did everything the same as I normally would. She just didn't respond like every other girl...

Then you should have asked her out and if she declined without giving you an another option then you would have received your answer weeks ago that she was not interested!! But, I know, you are saying, "But I really like this girl"; nonetheless, the feeling must be mutual!!

 

[Bussey]

I did ask her out, very shortly after that, and she said, yes, but after midterms. And that takes us to this week haha. But I agree, as I said, I'm not going to worry about it. Its done, I'm going to follow up on these other numbers I have haha.

Thanks

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

I know the feeling - to miss out on a girl that you are attracted to is difficult to replace with women who you have only an average interest in! Such is life!!! We cannot always have what we desire!

 

[Bussey]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
I know the feeling - to miss out on a girl that you are attracted to is difficult to replace with women who you have only an average interest in! Such is life!!! We cannot always have what we desire!

Very True, but for every girl we are attracted too, there will be 10 others, that can either replace her or be better. Plus I'm young haha, got a whooollleee life to live. Not getting hung up on own chick.

 

[belividere]

glad to hear that you realize your youth and the who cares attitude. You are most likely better off in the long run. I would still keep this girl on the backburner though and flirt when I saw her. Let her know what she is missing. The very least it can do is give you more social proof.

 

[belividere]

Oh yeah. There are 2 things about this forum that continously come up that always bother the hell out of me. One is that it is way to easy to pass a girl off as an AW when she doesn't want you. That is the worst excuse and those who make it will eventually meet a real AW and realize that they had no idea what the term meant until then. The second is that being "the prize" is all that it takes. The prize is relative and cannot be faked. The guy who is the prize really is the prize. Acting C+F or applying kino will never make anyone a prize. These moves become transparent as time unwinds. Just a little food for thought.

 

[Bussey]

Fair enough. But because she did show me she was interested... and then a couple of my friends, I do believe she is an AW

 

[belividere]

this is what I am saying. Attractive people always get hit on. Be it either guys or girls. Because they always get hit on a lot of them take it in stride and respond with what most people would consider flirting. So if this girl is hot enough to always be the one that everyone wants she is also the one who gets hit on and always has. Her idea of flirting is going to be different than yours based on experience. She also knows that most guys want her. Does that really make her an AW? To me no, it makes her a realist. Seriously anyone who dates good looking girls knows they are going to get hit on. It is the reality of the situation. Seriously if i were to go ahead and re-evaluate the situation with every HB9-10 that I have had it is way to easy to chalk her dis-interest up to being her being an AW. Really they weren't. The attention naturally comes there way and they cant do anything about it. I could have though. I realized that if I never step up and close the deal that the situation wholely falls in my hands. I know you asked her out and what not. But you weren't persistent. So you have to study meet at a coffee-shop and do it together. You have the same classes, I assume you have tests in that class. Meet up and study. Make an obvious move when you do it. Anyways you have to remember that if you keep the situation in your field you will be much better off. You bowed down to her present problems. The truth is in 25yrs. of life I have yet to meet a girl who doesn't pretend like she has problems. Most of the time her problems are self-initiated and have nothing to do with your situation. Women like drama. Do not feed into it and let yourself be part of it. I say this as someone who has. I look back and think about it and honestly laugh at some of the things that I did. Either way if you are done with her than good, if not consider the wisdom that has been kicked down in this thread already.