Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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C&F and the kiss

Ian1983

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just a quick question;

when your going in for the kiss for the first time to guage IL ('something in your hair', move in, lift chin, basic kino, then move in for the kiss iteslef), should you go straight in, or would some C&F completely ruin any chances

when I'm thinking C&F, i' thinking, after touching the face, if I were to say sometihng along the lines of

'if your going to knee me, let me know now'
the idea is to get a smile and definate confermation (particular girl I'm going to do this on hasn't pulled back last time I got within nose touching distance, but at that time I wasn't interested and jokingly called her a *****)

slight humour, but...........would that be just BAD (ie as your moving in, stop, say it, and get response and continue to move in)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i've actually pretty recently come right out and said.

"can i kiss you?"

lol, thank god the answer was.. "duh!"
 

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why did you do this? yeh i know 1 of the great DJ newsletter tips recomended it but you really should not say this.

if you must then just say to her kiss me, or somthing like that, but never ask weather or not you can.
 

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
why did you do this? yeh i know 1 of the great DJ newsletter tips recomended it but you really should not say this.

if you must then just say to her kiss me, or somthing like that, but never ask weather or not you can.
i know, i had no idea what was going through my head, she was just laying down on the couch, her head in my lap and i asked.. "can i kiss you"

:eek: next time i'll play it more smooth
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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you no what could be a good idea, say, in a sexy voice, as you are aobut to go in for a kiss "im going to kiss you now"
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
There's a time to play games and there's a time to shut up and kiss. :p

I think too much I'm told


no C&F, if she hasn't recoiled, my mouth is shut (the first time anyway)
 
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